Let go of the past - so you attract the right man

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Do you wish you didn't let the past rule you?

-because it eats away at your joy in life to keep attracting the same and the wrong men.

- or because it is difficult to gain trust in a man and in love - again.

The past is the biggest obstacle for too many to dare love.

Because the emotions tell it is too risky.

Get the answer to…

– why it is so hard to let go of the past

– how you can learn to let go of the past

-and why men and women become each other's obstacles.

After reading the blog…

 Do you know more about how you can let go of the past and get ready for the right man

Why do we cling to the past?

Why is it so hard to let go of experiences that have caused us pain and suffering?

Many of us cling to the past because of our need for certainty. Here's the certainty that it won't happen again.

Security is one of the basic human needs.

We don't think about it on a daily basis because we are busy living our lives,

but it is fundamentally about survival.

That's why it's so hard to let go of the past

We need to feel confident that we can avoid pain and ideally find comfort in our lives.

Letting go of the past also means stepping into the unknown.

It means having the courage to let go of the familiar – even if it is negative.

It takes courage to be vulnerable enough to embrace and learn from the unknown that lies ahead.

The feminine core

There is another reason why it is so difficult to learn to let go of the past.

We associate feelings with information.

For example, consider a woman who has a feminine core.

If her partner does something that causes her emotional pain, she may tend to bring it up again and again throughout the relationship.

Her partner feels that it is impossible to win.

No matter how much he does to change the situation, she continues to punish him for his past transgressions.

Emotions hold us back

But there's a very real reason why she can't figure out how to let go of the past.

Information with emotion makes an indelible impression.

A person with a highly feminine core will attach emotion to anything that affects them in a significant way.

Especially if it causes them pain or suffering. This makes it harder for them to let go of the past.

The masculine core

Contrast that with a masculine core. A very masculine person cares and feels things deeply.

While feminine energy is about filling up and gathering, masculine energy is about breaking through and letting go.

Common to both sexes

Regardless of gender, when there are still feelings attached to a memory, it becomes increasingly difficult to move on from the past.

It's about loosening your grip on it. It will help you move forward in a healthier and happier way.

Since "We are our minds - regardless of the life lived, it's about letting go of the emotions.

What's holding you back?

The first step is to recognize what is holding you back.

What exactly are you holding on to?

  • A failed relationship?
  • A feeling of being let down as a child?
  • A grudge against a friend or family member that you just can't get over?
  • Do you need to forgive someone—either personally or in your own heart—so that you can let go of anger and step into a more peaceful state?

Ask yourself…

Once you've identified what's holding you back, ask yourself:

  • “What are the reasons why I absolutely must move out of this?
  • “How will your life change when you learn to move on from the past?
  • How will it change your relationships and help you stay in touch with your partner?
  • How will it feel to be in this new chapter of your life?

Now you are ready to let go of the past

What is your purpose in letting go of the past. For example, meeting the right man for a long-term relationship.

This is one of the most important parts of the process. Because it will help you stay committed to letting go of the past.

Therefore, it is important that you have a clear sense of what the purpose of letting go is.

Purpose will serve as your emotional drive when you feel like giving up. You will inevitably face setbacks and challenges.

Here, a strong enough reason and purpose can support you in staying focused and dedicated.

Identify your emotional habits

Identifying your emotional habits is one of the most challenging parts of letting go of the past.

It requires deep introspection with questions like…

  • How do you live your life?
  • What are your limiting beliefs?
  • How do you react emotionally?

Here you can make it simple by simply feeling your emotions, so you don't end up working mentally overtime.

 

All emotions are loving messengers

When you get used to certain emotions, even negative ones, you don't notice how they affect you on a daily basis.

You don't realize that you are stuck in a negative emotional loop.

Our unique emotional habits can greatly influence the way we look at life.

The way we act affects how well we are able to move on from the past.

See the positive feelings

Identifying your emotional habits starts the shift towards a more positive experience.

Your emotions are like a muscle:

You can train yourself to feel frustrated, sad, stressed, or even depressed. This can happen when a challenging situation arises.

Or

you can train yourself to feel passionate, happy and strong. Especially when something bad happens in your life.

When you take responsibility for your feelings, you can learn to let go of the past.

In a way that makes you feel lighter and freer instead of scared.

Let go of the thought and the feeling will change

When you catch yourself falling into a negative emotional habit, work to interrupt the thought and shift gears immediately.

I myself say: “Change!”

The moment I do it,

I feel the release of using the energy in this moment

 

This is the first step towards letting go of the past.

If you would like to hear more about how to take the next step towards attracting a man, you can come to my free lecture.

Lecture on finding love - for the last time

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You know what it looks like when it's the little girl who's on the date?

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When it's the little girl who goes on a date - and the grown woman stays at home, you want to focus more on him than yourself.  

Therefore, you can make it both easier and more secure to find love when you are aware that the adult woman can easily figure out how to look after you-

Do you know that too?

You already fear the moments when you are insecure and restless. Because you have doubts about him. You have thoughts like, does he want to be with you, can you trust him, and does he really love you?

You have told yourself…

– that if you choose the right man, this will not happen,

- that you can just ditch him again

– or that this time you won't get it the same way

That's why you get here on the blog…

– the answer to how you can prevent your inner little girl from destroying love

– the eyes open to the fact that a chameleon state creates fear

-knowledge that it is paramount that you are the adult woman – and not the little girl who controls you.

After reading the blog…

Do you know how you can safely leave the little girl at home so that it is the grown woman who is on the date.

It helps you shift from fear to being able to confidently take care of yourself.

When the opinion of others is far too important

There is a reason why the opinion of others is so important.

The little girl knows where she gets security and nourishment from. She is dependent on it for life.

Typically, we have to do something extraordinary to separate ourselves from other people's opinions as adults.

Otherwise, it will continue to be the little girl who thinks her survival depends on others.

If you haven't done it yet, here's your chance.

It can be thoughts like

  • Wondering if he likes me?
  • What will my friends and family think of him?

Can you recognize the above thoughts?

It is very understandable and recognizable for most people to worry about what others think.

Conversely, if you choose a partner who suits everyone but you, it is still the little girl who is on the date.

Trust that you are shaped by your past, but that you are a free woman.

You can feel for yourself what is good for you and what is not.

The above thoughts are your best reflection on whether it is the little girl or the grown woman who is on a date.

 

What does it take for the grown woman to date?

 

Are you a chameleon without knowing it?

In the early stages of a relationship, it's common (and dangerous) to mold ourselves around our partner's needs and preferences.

That is why it is so important that you build and hold on to your sense of self, as the grown woman you are.

Don't give up your individual interests for a partner or your favorite people.

On the contrary, you will get invaluable information here whether to hold on to him or let him go.

This is the ultimate test of whether he is the one!

Notice if your partner encourages you to do what you enjoy and see your people. Here, your grown woman will look after you.

The little girl believes that he probably knows better. The adult in you knows that he has no idea.

What is AWESOME about YOU?

Are you in doubt or have you never thought about what is great about you?

Do you bring the best of yourself to the relationship, or are you too focused on your partner's flaws?

It is often a sign that you do not trust yourself to meet your needs.

Note here that the little girl is dependent on the parents giving her the necessary so that you can master life.

The grown woman knows she is good enough.

With less previous bad incidents, that part messes up.

Maybe you can recognize

  • It is your poor self-confidence that you are stuck with

It can make you see the worst in your partner. Because we see the worst in ourselves.

We project our poor self-esteem onto them

 

Do this instead!

You can safely leave the little girl at home when…

The little girl accepts that you, as an adult, control her. Not vice versa.

It is sometimes necessary conscious to tell yourself.

Only walk out the door like a grown woman!

This makes it easier to focus on yourself, your needs and self-confidence.

Do you know your good qualities?

Find and identify your many fine qualities. Write them down if it helps.

Ask your friends if you need to. Ask them to name the 3 best qualities about you. Check the list daily.

Take a photo of them lying on your phone, just to look at before you go on the date.

 

Dear woman, I wish you the best date in your company, together with him

Life

 

Does love fail - because you're actually self-sabotaging?

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Do you know that too?

You think you have done EVERYTHING. Still haven't found him yet?

You may have tried…

– being on too many (boring) dates,

– that he burns you off on the deal

– that you give it time and not to be too critical

and of course a lot of other things!

So read along here about how you can turn the tide on the love journey.

So instead it gives you more energy and a more enjoyable life.

 

In this blog you get

-opportunity to reconsider whether you are sabotaging yourself with negative analyses.

-and the simple but too many unknown and indispensable things you must do EVERY time you think negatively about finding love

- you will get the answer to why the most important thing is that you practice your long-term relationship now.

After reading the blog…

When you have read the blog, you are completely clear about what you can do. It's a simple powerful thing you can do daily.

It will help you open up to the love of the right one.

Are you sabotaging yourself with negative analysis?

Every single time I get the analysis. When a woman tells why she hasn't found love yet, she knows 'why'.

She usually has many very good suggestions as to the reason.

The problem? She is stranded in the analysis.

Do you know that too? That you know more about the cause than about what to do?

 

For example. Appearance means a lot to us humans – especially women.

Imagine that you are thinking: "I wonder if it is because I am not good looking that I am not succeeding in finding the right man."

Why is parsing a problem?

The problem with an analysis of that kind is that it will only add something to a diminished self-esteem.

If you then meet the most beautiful man, you will still think the same. Like you're not good looking.

This will sabotage love and you.

Psst... In the real world it is often the case that he is with you because he has a wonderful feeling inside.

Do this instead!

Therefore, it is crucial that your analyzes are turned to your advantage.

And here comes the importance of the mindset of love.

It should help you find love.

Rather than analyzing you up to..

where you

or he

are not good enough.

 

Turn sabotage into driving force

Have you noticed that most often when we analyze, it is when something fails?

It is good to know when you have been in an unfortunate or life-threatening situation.

Otherwise, it is more developmental to investigate how you can, for example, make finding love more fun.

Sarah in my FB group shared how heartbreaking it was to get burned on a date. She is stuck in the 'why'.

Is it recognizable?

That behind the urge for a 'why' either hides, the fear of the past repeating itself,

or

It's probably me it's crazy about.

Use the energy for development

Instead, you will learn more from releasing the energy. Like Sarah – by looking at how she can avoid it happening a second time.

It will also make her even better at attracting and rejecting.

When you catch yourself thinking negatively

You have now heard about how damaging and self-sabotaging it can be to think negatively about yourself and others.

Often it is in fact the limitations of the past that are activated.

The best way to deal with it is for you to maintain: What it is you want.

If the same thing happens again, know that today you can take care of yourself.

Instead, do this simple thing, daily and right now

Look in the mirror and say: "This is what a happy and satisfied woman in a long-term relationship looks like."

Then notice how it feels…

Why the most important thing is that you practice your long-term relationship now.

Most people have a hidden wish that suddenly he is standing there

But what if you are mentally preoccupied with limiting and negative thoughts:

Like…”He only says that because…? “Or…”If he really loved me, he would…”

Every time those thoughts are activated, it affects your emotions.

Consciously choose what you think.

Train yourself to dare love now.

Therefore train yourself to dare love right now.

One woman shared how strange it was to tell a friend how happy she was for her.

She acknowledged that it only showed her how new and unfamiliar it was to feel love.

So instead of shutting it down, she began to react to the environment - and saw how all the good before had been sorted out.

Therefore, let love live now, so that you are ready when you meet him.

 

If you would like to watch it video

 

Good trip from Liv

How to avoid unrequited love

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Do you know that too?

You can't afford to be disappointed again, or to think after a while that you've met the wrong person again?

If 'YES' then you may have tried…

– stay away from dating,

-accept a life without love or

-to focus on friends and family without it replacing love.

So read here about how you can feel safe and happy in love – again?

Both in the dating process and later in the relationship.

In this blog you get

- the recipe for how to hold on to Your happiness also in the later relationship

-and the simple, but too many unknown and indispensable things you can do to avoid a premature emotional investment

- you get the answer to why the worst thing is when he seems familiar and you feel comfortable.

After reading the blog…

have you mastered this one point, how to go from a repeat of unhappy to HAPPY love.

How do you hold on to your own happiness throughout the relationship?

The absolutely crucial thing is that at the start of the relationship, you don't swim in the sea of emotions because you think: "He's fantastic."

If you can recognize yourself here, the best and easiest thing to do is to date more than one man at a time.

In fact, until you are sure that he is interested in dating.

And just as important – that you have investigated whether he actually lives up to his own words.

A woman told me she had asked him if he liked to be active.

In reality, he would rather sit at home and watch TV.

It occurs to her that if she had listened to the fact that he usually hadn't done anything in the time until they saw each other again,

then she'd had a chance to check it out.

 

Avoid a premature emotional investment!

Many men are most energetic in courtship during the first 1-3 months.

Therefore, you can do nothing better than to focus on your own happiness, for so long.

After this courting period, your engagement will be ideal if the man continues to show interest.

Until then: Sit back. Enjoy and cultivate your own life

Would like to date several people at the same time.

It is the best way to avoid being overcommitted,

and you make it easier for yourself.

He seems familiar and you feel comfortable

Being around a strange man you feel seems familiar can be a warning sign.

This often means that you are repeating a pattern.

It may actually be the familiar and safe attraction of a wounded or unavailable man.

In my network, a woman has just done this and it is hard to see her fade more and more in the relationship with an unavailable man.

 

Let's find a solution that will last this time.

How to go from unhappy to happy love.

Avoid losing yourself in the man.

Make sure you have an exciting calendar with people, places and activities you love.

Make sure you put yourself first.

Keep your energy and balance at home

Start with practice: Every time you daydream about him,

come back to yourself.

Decisive

Decide in advance how far you will go physically with a man BEFORE your date begins.

I encourage you not to be exclusive with a man until you feel secure about him and that you don't go further than you can stand to lose.

Are you in doubt?

Do you doubt whether he is the right one? Then it's time to sharpen all your tools.

Get started doing exercises that strengthen a loving self-image and help you feel yourself, your own body, body and emotions.

Remember Practice makes you a Master.

 

You can get a free love plan where you can start doing exercises.

Find it here

http://livslovefitness.dk/onlineforloeb/

The date was yawningly boring – right up until…

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Do you know it? Are you about to give up dating because you're bored?

Then I will teach you how to make it exciting

You can look forward to that…

-you get the recipe for how to choose the wrong ones in advance

-and the simple thing, but too many unknown and indispensable things you can do to create an interesting date

- you get the answer to what gives you the feeling of being on a good date.

You just want to meet the right one

You want to find love with the right one.

This is also why you are on the date

To get an answer to whether he just roughly corresponds to your wishes. Because you are tired of longing for love

The reality?: You sit and wish you were somewhere else...

It's not nice and you actually wish you didn't have to do this at all.

That was Julie's reality

That was Julie in a nutshell.

Straight into…

she did something very simple.

After a long time she was being eaten up by frustration.

As a last attempt, she responds to the she experiences.

As a result, she is now sitting with a live present man and having fun.

What had happened?

It starts with: "New message!"

Julie's advantage is that she receives many inquiries on the dating site.

She relates to the man.

Both for what he writes and does.

If he has not written for a long time, she relates to this.

Also the comments he makes and the things he suggests.

She deals with what she herself thinks and brings it into the conversation.

The selection process is surprising

You might be thinking, sure work, just for a short date

It turns out that the selection process before the actual date is surprisingly short.

I worked closely with Julie. From when she was about to bite herself in the arm out of sheer frustration, until she became so preoccupied with meeting herself - through him.

That meant the selection process was never a problem.

Because the essence of love was in her - and it was she who was interested in nurturing.

If she doesn't hear from him and he's particularly exciting or good-looking

Then she is busy with her own love journey.

Being on a GOOD and interesting date is about 2 things

Let's sum it up

  1. you are well prepared. Right from the selection to the text messages - and the feeling that arises inside you - so you are already in good contact beforehand with your judgment and the desire to get to know him better
  2. that the date should be experienced as pleasurable, for a good while. Where you safely rest in your femininity and just have a good and fun time.

 

By enjoying the experience – as well as indirectly unlearning a negative pattern – you will learn the following:

  1. that you are free to react to how you meet and experience him. You are a grown woman who can take care of yourself. It means letting go of the past – such as failure, disappointment, anger and frustration.
  2. your own Love Journey is the most important… more important than whether the date leads to a next meeting. You may not be ready to decide that until tomorrow.

NOW THE MAGIC CAN START TO OCCUR BECAUSE THE EMOTIONS THAT ARE ACTIVATED HERE ARE ALSO THE ONES THAT OCCUR IN LOVE

Happy Love Journey

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