That made Line Nervous and Surprised...but most of all grateful

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It got behind me

When I talked to Line,

it surprised me

that it was not

the feminine exercises she had enjoyed performing,

that had such a great effect on her

in the coaching process.

 

The effect was most important

Instead, it was the exercise,

that opens up that love

she later shared with friends – probably also an ex.

She found that she could

maintain own comfort zone

She didn't have to say: "I love you."

It was just as well to say: "I care about you..."

 

Here she became untouchable in the face of resistance

She now does the exercise mentioned above for 5 minutes. daily

So little was needed

before she rediscovered a strong longing

to find the right man.

A desire she got released when she found out 'how‘.

The solution was just around the corner…

The solution was to connect with those resources

that was so unique to her.

When she was in the creative, creating space she was strong & free

She knew how to find that easily

At the same time, she became immune to several things

from putting self-esteem to the test,

to fear rejection or accept 'nothing' from the man.

Most important: Self-esteem enough to avoid the wrong ones.

It was touching to hear about her new desire to find the right one.

 

You can do that yourself

I know you have neither the coaching course

or the book in which the exercise is written

So that's why I'm going to suggest you this…

Start with something as simple as:

  1. Look in the mirror every morning

Say out loud

2. “This is how a beloved woman looks

           in a long-term relationship out!”

 

Why is it so good?

It is effective.

Because you train your brain to:

  • more energy on love – neurons that light up
  • to want to attract love

Above: The old network... about repeating the past. The one that made you close to love.

 

If you would like to read more about the book, you can find it here and read 1st chapter free

or buy it here…

Good love journey towards finding love

Life :-)

This is how I learned to STOP 'living on autopilot' AND find love

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Wondering if I'm alone in this…?

My single mindset

In my many years(-ties ;-)) as a single,

I only looked at the men:

– were good enough…?

– cute enough in a relationship…?

and could I trust them.

All this

without my influence!

Think!  Not at any time

I considered my role:

If I went too far

– or exceeded what felt good.

I was living on autopilot

The problem with living on autopilot,

is that it is still like the child who has learned to depend on the environment.

As an adult woman also the same approach

– to be dependent on whether the man does it 'perfectly'.

and it deprives us of the influence on the development of the relationship.

Wow I have made many diagnoses

if he does not behave as expected.

Mentally abusive? Narcissist? Psychopath (-the last one is especially cultivated)

 

The automaton was humanly made

When I slowly woke up,

it was like being blinded by the sun

Argh… again! again! again!

Have I gone too far?

Recognizable?

But what clarity the sun's rays

conversely also gave

You are guaranteed to know them as

the precious lessons.

Are you influencing the relationship yourself?

That's why I know firsthand that it's about more

to be present in the relationship

By paying attention to:  what is going on

Rather than whether he is a certain way.

Do you use him as…

-a 'rescuer',

-is he allowed to speak badly to you? '

-‘Do you think your– without reacting to it?

Is this often what makes us not react!

That's how little you need to start

Start with the two most important focuses:

  1. Yourself in the situation.

Thereby you find out when something is not quite right.

2) Note, when you are analyzing

a situation…or him.

Instead, consider: “What would you like to say to him?”

Forget the interpretation...: He has also lost, he doesn't know, probably too...

It's the feeling, you have to take care of it.

In this way, I went from living on autopilot,

to get out of the paralysis and create the relationship that I (we) jointly want.

You can do the same.

There's never been a better time to start practicing—right now

If you keep doing the same thing, the same thing will happen.

(PS we do the same if we think the same)

 

Therefore, if you would like to stop repeating the past,

can you book an interview with me until 14/3

Conversation about love is non-binding, you simply book the time here  BOOK NOW

 

 

 

Do You Do This Too… If Your Dating Strategy Doesn't Work?

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Do you know it?

You have long gone with the frustration!

Suddenly something dawns on you

maybe someone has suggested something to you…

and the moment you hear the solution, it's like the light bulb turns on in Aha experience.

What happens then?

The interesting thing, how you then take the solution to yourself...

Do you then continue to do the same?

Or you go overge to the previous phase (see the 3-edge below)

So you get what you are missing or have overlooked?

Over half…

Recently, I asked my participants in one of my coaching groups:

"What would you like to get better at in a relationship"

Over half responded

  • Good contact with myself - once we are together.

The most important thing in a relationship

The crux of the matter is that if we believe a partner must cover our needs

then we have the recipe for... becoming dissatisfied or unhappy in the relationship.

My boyfriend admitted yesterday that he felt rejected,

when I don't want to listen to an endless stream of research results.

He now knows he has to find other places to fill that need.

Perhaps you yearn for a stronger social network,

and have decided that it is solved by finding him.

Instead, you will achieve a sense of greater freedom by developing it yourself

rather than putting one of your most important keys in his pocket.

Isn't that the fault of the past?

Njahh… yup…

but this insight does not 'save' us.

Although that is guilt of childhood or the past,

that we have acquired unsafe relationship patterns and attachment traumas.

What is needed is for you to free up your resources so that you attract long-lasting love

Not on attracting… the shortcomings, the sadness, the frustration…

which gives you the most focus not to succeed.

 

You don't have to look back

Did you know that you can find the resources

right now by looking at your current life?

By looking at: "Where the chain smokes off the bike" how is your life now?

We know very well that it is not the chain itself that is the cause of a bad bike

A chain that is constantly falling off is the result of several things:

too long chain, worn sprocket, too large a distance to the wheel, etc

Would you like to create a healthy and loving relationship?

see picture with the pyramid showing

that the foundation of a healthy relationship is a loving self-image

(interesting that it's not the past ;-)…)

Cultivating the shortcomings creates frustration

Therefore, if you are frustrated with your dating situation

so take a step back and cultivate your ability to show yourself,

care and that you take care of yourself.

It is more edifying than continuing with something that breaks you down.

Start by asking yourself:

"Why is a girlfriend so important to me?"

Let's just say this time it's not social

but the joy and physical contact a relationship gives.

Here you can consider dance such as salsa, acro yoga, courses...

all while you continue after a few weeks

with your love journey

Have fun from Life

 

You can also investigate whether you would like help in my coaching group

Time for FREE conversation

 Find out what's stopping you from finding love,  book your FREE love conversation here

How to enjoy yourself on Valentine's Day when you're single❤️

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Do you experience Valentine's Day as an unpleasant reminder that you are still single?

You might have tried to ignore it for years, maybe put down with a bad feeling,

or been obsessed with the idea that you just had to find a date for the day.

Here are some suggestions for how you get a good experience of the day.

After you read the blog, you know what is essential for feeling good inside

even if you are single on Valentine's Day.

It was a turn around for me

From the day I became aware of the most important thing to be able to attract the right men, namely SELF-LOVE

has this been a faithful companion. It has meant I attract the right men. And reminded me that a love mindset

is essential on a daily basis. That's why in the end, as a single person, I avoided the unloving ones by pretending it was nothing, when now it gave me a stomach ache,

when colleagues talked about their Valentine's Day. That's why you get 3 suggestions for what you can do on Valentine's Day. I myself love to do

what puts me in a wonderful state of complete relaxation, such as the spa, delicious chocolate and a walk somewhere special.

I've never sent flowers to myself, but why not?

Tip #1: Spend the day with your friends

Friends are worth their weight in gold! Whether things are going well or life is challenging, they are the ones we turn to.

Why not organize something fun with your friends? Make it a celebration of your friendship and share the love

this way instead. Did you know that February 14 in Finland is a day dedicated to friends?

Tip #2: Surprise someone you love

You may not have a boyfriend in your life, but that doesn't mean you can't surprise someone special to you!

A close friend, your lovely mother or a work colleague who is always there in times of need. Go for a card with a sweet message

or delicious chocolate.

Here you get to activate the whole essence of having a girlfriend: the good feeling it gives you inside to please someone you love.

Tip #3: Find time for your hobbies

Finding time to focus on your passions is not always easy. Life can be hectic and as a result you may end up with little time left

to do other than work. While everyone is enjoying candlelight dinners and other romantic activities, spend some time doing what you love to do.

it is pure SELF-LOVE. Whether it's writing, sports, or some other leisure activity, time spent doing what we love is always money well spent!

 

The decisive thing is self-love, because it determines what quality of man you attract.

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If you're still thinking, arghhh…

If you still feel that you would now like to have one girlfriend to celebrate the day with, so promise yourself,

that what you want to work on will become your reality by next Valentine's Day. If you don't know, start asking others,

whatever it took, be open about it or seek help.  

Good dating with the most important person in your life

from Life

 

 

Don't give up on love, give up on the wrong men.

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Do you also experience that you are close to giving up on love?

So I have a basic solution for this what you can do instead that gives you new blood on the tooth.

After you read the blog, you know what you can do yourself to create chemistry - even if he doesn't have to be your boyfriend  

Enter the wrong one

I've never heard anyone say they want to give up something because it's nice, gives energy and joy,

but I often hear,

that it is the pain they want to stop when it comes to love

– such as memories of unloving relationships, emotional abuse, disappointment, jealousy, abuse, or insecurity.

Who wants to feel intimidated, guilty or worthless?

It is, however, another justification that comes before the relationship

namely the fear of rejection at the dating stage.

Hmmm… maybe it's not love you want to give up after all?

Mix the love around

Love is a beautiful feeling,

If the good feelings do not appear in the relationship, how do you react?

  • Are you one of those who close in?
  • Do you think you are the one who is wrong?
  • Have exes been successful in tricking you into thinking you're the culprit?
  • you start to doubt yourself – your friends' success, you think tells you: It must be you.

Regardless of the answer, you can find new ways to seek out what the love you long for.

But how can you turn the tide and regain hope?

(NB – this is not the same as suggesting to ignore everything that is not beautiful at first – quite the opposite)

This is how you create chemistry - and achieve hope

Whatever the reasons, many get discouraged at the mere thought of dating – or another date.

It is crucial to find the desire or the motivation, otherwise you will not find the love.

Therefore, from the first contact, the first text from the date that you find interesting

make sure you create a good feeling inside you.

Avoid it -again- drifting down the walls in endless disappointment.

Who wants that? Even voluntarily!

Imagine that the next date you go on is like creating an exotic dish

Cultivate the chemistry in the relationship, like when you cook a delicious dinner dish.

Of course, you don't start by being disappointed that the tomatoes are just lying there,

 

like when the man just sits there, with his completely ordinary appearance

In itself, the tomatoes are not a special exotic dish.

Add young cock, white wine vinegar and Aphrodite's oregano.

Then it should simmer, as you do for the next half hour in contact with your date.

Use the time well

  • sense... how does the coffee smell,
  • feel the feelings the situation evokes – Share them
  • Choose the good thoughts - no, now is not the time to consider whether he is enough.

So quickly and easily I have never explained how we ourselves create chemistry.

(no, it's not by waiting and assessing)

Create experiences you want to repeat

If you are hoping for good feelings to arise on the date

you just start cultivating them.

You don't need to tire your brain with a lot of nasty questions

Better be present and express your presence

This does not mean that you must be lovers

You are just going from despair to hope.

Goodbye pain

Goodbye pain:

  • Because you liver the love
  • when you settle for enjoy the fellowship (he neither can nor will save you)
  • you don't take bigger steps than you are ready for
  • where you don't do exhausting things without desire.

True love is honest and energizing

SEE it's love.

Life :-)