Are you ruining the relationship before it even starts?
do you know that that it causes problems in the relationship because you confuse disappointment in him with actually being hurt or angry with him?
Have you noticed that the man quickly feels criticized?
Read here how to express your feelings in a more successful way.
After you read the blog, you know how to fix it before you ruin the relationship.
When disappointment destroys the relationship
Dear beautiful woman
Might as well be you, I'm talking to, where it suits you,
that you sabotage the relationship, or the relationship before it has started?
If you don't, you unconsciously push him away from you because he senses criticism.
Hear what you can do to fix it.
Separate yourself from the critic
My husband is also quite vulnerable to criticism, so I know there is a gender difference here
Either because as a woman I find it quite easy to express disappointment towards him as a man,
maybe it just shows clearly on my face.
When a man feels that he "can never make you happy", he feels inadequate
and can very easily come to the decision that he does not see himself as the man for you.
Men LEAVE a relationship when they no longer feel like a man.
Listen to this sign
For example, has a man ever said to you, “I feel like I just can't make you happy”?
This is a symptom of sabotage in a relationship.
A person who feels unable to bring the other joy
due to scrutiny or claims.
Prepare yourself
Make sure to come up with a statement of feelings in the right way
and make sure to be aware of how you talk to him so he really hears you,
It could be that you just want to express how you feel.
yet women often use emotion statements completely wrong.
Avoid this
It is crucial that you don't blame him. Remember to express the essential, which is,
how you experience it when, for example, you feel hurt.
This is about YOU, not the man.
and it is definitely NOT to get a desired result.
Notice your feelings
Getting to know your feelings can take time and practice.
Everyone in your life and every moment is an opportunity to practice.
When you open up your heart and share your vulnerabilities,
you reveal your true heart and focus on the good.
It will make the man feel relaxed in your company.
Here he has the opportunity to feel like a man in your presence,
That feels VERY good for him!
Focus on the project
Remember, men LOVE to have a job. Not necessarily a 'job' but a 'task',
where he gets to be the man
and take care of something in a way only a man can.
It can be easy
Feminine energy moves slowly, it is not linear, so you can expect,
that it will take time to master these feminine energy techniques,
but still, you will start seeing results with your dating men or your husband pretty quickly.
Although you may find it difficult now, you can learn how to find your true,
real feelings and share them with a man when you come from the feminine energy.
What is behind disappointment?
Finding our feelings often means going past the first feeling,
– this is usually a feeling of disappointment.
I encourage you to go deeper beyond anger, disappointment and sadness.
There is always a fear lurking and it is your heart that speaks.
The loving focus
Finally, focus as much as possible on the GOOD things a man does for you.
Any little thing he does to help, or be kind…
let him know how it feels!
Even if it's as little as giving you a napkin or taking a clean shirt on the counter!
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Have fun with the love from Liv
Do you pick up the phone when the Goddess of Love calls?
Have you noticed
That you are bored or frustrated in the dating phase?
If so, poh, you probably just want that phase over, preferably blindfolded, ears and mouth. Either you have tried to 'hold the bar high' or you have tried to make them as simple as a business agreement, where you sit with the checklist:
- Presentable?
- humor?
- check on jobs and etc.?
- can talk about anything other than cars?
Read then how you can use the date to prepare for - if nothing else - the love of your life.
After reading the blog, Do you know how to make dating more exciting?
The call of the goddess of love
Liv, how can I feel comfortable when I'm dating a man,
which I need to figure out if I want to go ahead with?
Well... I usually wouldn't be able to do that either.
So could assess whether I should go ahead with him or not.
Which, on the other hand, is important to do when you are dating
is to be present, to pick up the love phone when it rings.
Enjoy the date regardless…
When you are on the date, it is your time to let your Inner Woman unfold.
Therefore take the call of the goddess of love as the feminine woman that you are,
when you're looking for love.
It is your opportunity to learn, sense, enjoy, feel and feel love
From the inside out.
Goodbye past
We women have often experienced such violent things about love,
that we are either paralyzed or too active.
The only way we can get out of this,
is making sure we are in safe situations
and fend off all the others.
Strong Stine
Stine, a strong career woman, told how she coped
an ever-recurring suitor she knew from work contexts.
She had 2% hope that it was something for her.
To have as little trouble with him as possible.
the easiest thing was just to invite him home.
Everything was going well until he starts making physical advances.
She managed it, but it was borderline behavior
What's the problem with that?
The feminine women, slips unseen into the cave,
and is not really dating ready.
Although she wastes time with a lot of dates.
Create the good dates
As I said, the more pleasure and sensuality we express ourselves
The more we are in touch with our femininity,
which much of the meeting is about, do we as a man and a woman desire each other?
Therefore, avoid dates that do not invite you to be soft and receptive
Be sure that the man who is allowed to get close
make it safe enough to sprinkle you with party dust,
ensure your safety.
So you can rest in your feminine, warm and receptive energy,
Let yourself be awakened
Let yourself be awakened by the Goddess of Love,
Receive her energy.
When I made an Instagram post about the feminine energy
it just affected me that be in the feminine energy
it had a great effect on me.
And it was the most wonderful experience for me,
to identify so concentratedly with my own gender.
Enjoy the call of the Goddess of Love
When you enjoy the goddess of love calls
by resting in yourself,
by being slow
and by feeling your emotions.
Then it becomes clearer to you,
What brings you well-being.
Plan the date
Cultivate wellness when dating. Plan a date where you are also dating your Love Goddess.
If you haven't practiced with her before,
How else to dust her off?
When do you need her?
you really want to please another man,
and will show him
how much it pleases you to be in his company.
Show your femininity
You can express yourself through the senses with Enjoy Sounds,
Being comfortable makes it easier to show your vulnerability
even if it can be experienced as a bit borderline-crossing at first.
Notice how it strengthens the contact between you
Notice how he reacts
Note in particular: How the mood is experienced in you.
Uhmm… what a time ahead of you.
The time to renew love - first from within yourself
Put the food where the mouth is
It is an amazing discovery to find out,
that maybe you can change your beliefs about love.
Maybe there is also love for and for me.
Knowing you don't have to sit alone
And forever in the ivory tower
Learn to live and maintain love right now
getting started.
That's how you learn
- to feel yourself
- to make contact and
- develop the relationship
Ahh… see you
Life
Is it time for you to change a Love Habit?
Do you know it?
That you wait and wait but he hasn't shown up yet?
If so, then then maybe you have tried… different dating apps, being active in singles networks or
to continue with the wrong ones – it was a mistake. Then I might have the solution to the one thing you can do.
After reading the blog, have you learned that love requires focus in a completely different place than you originally thought.
When everything but love is important
Many women tell me they are frustrated waiting for love. At the same time, I hear that they ignore,
how they themselves relate to it.
They look at the weight, age and appearance, and whether they are lucky in love, or have a good personality, but otherwise…
The rest is completely up to the man when it comes to finding an intimate love partner.
Find me now!
It's as if we women disappear into a Love Fantasy World where only the man has a role and where...
-it's up to the man to find them,
-it's up to the man to save them,
-it is up to the man not to hurt them,
-it is up to the man to respect them,
The list is long and we are getting impatient. The worst thing is that the list is missing the most important thing.
When the setting changes
What is absolutely crucial is that your approach becomes more feminine. I clearly remember when Maja got a belief that a love relationship
can be safe because she now takes care of herself and can still indulge in the company of a man.
Her own changed attitude gave her completely new and more dating offers.
She does the opposite of what she did before. Now she is developing a healthy and rewarding long-term relationship, from the start.
That it is not either by being paralyzed or by fighting difficult battles. She is receptive,
open and soft, at the same time she only continues if the relationship is good.
She thus lays the foundation for the relationship, which should rather be a Dance of Love,
instead of it being a place of love.
What is missing from the list
If we don't know what creates love and don't know how to develop a relationship where both parties feel well adjusted,
then it will almost be experienced as an impossible task, simply waiting for the right one.
Rather, you have to go out and find him, based on the fact that you make contact with your dates.
A woman told me that she had found a boyfriend. It was still new when he suddenly disappears again.
The woman seems understandably paralyzed. One of the typical reasons why the man leaves is if he does not feel
that his presence is important.
It is more important than appearance that you have presence in the situation, that you emotionally dare to open up. This is crucial
in order to develop the right relationship.
Imagine if you meet the perfect man and don't realize it. Instead, he rushes away because he feels uncomfortable.
After I've known my sweet husband for a few months, in the heat of battle he calls me a nasty nickname. I'll take that down immediately,
and says I will not allow it. Imagine I don't get to react, but instead, hope it doesn't happen again,
as well as analyzing a lot of times on it. No, spending energy on that rather than love didn't match my new love habit.
Can you speak up without saying anything?
I also think that in the past it was quite difficult to say no. After I do it from a completely different starting point, it feels natural.
On top of that, I am co-responsible for developing the love relationship I want. If the man talks nasty, then it's nasty.
If we only pretend to be nice and stiffen when he squirms, then we are helping to remove ourselves from the good feeling,
we want in love.
Your Life-Changing Love Habit
The life-changing love habit that is the feminine approach will change,
how you relate to yourself and to a love partner in a completely new way.
Yes, you still cultivate the appearance, that's what catches the eye. As long as your focus is on making contact with the man
– based on the fact that you are in touch with yourself and the enjoying feminine woman.
NB: Yes, today you can take care of yourself. You have of course made sure to date in a safe environment. Of course we dare not flirt,
if we are not safe.
No: you don't have to find out on the date itself whether he's good or not. The date will be better if you wait with this
until you leave the date. Notice if you feel loved, valuable and happy when you leave.
Only from here do you consider your next step.
Let the next date be life-changing
Imagine that the next man you date feels like the one. Here you let him, as a man, be the active one.
While you lean back, you enjoy the situation and you sensuously express how much you enjoy the present,
which you are present in. Notice if he enjoys being in the relationship, otherwise you put everything in.
Have fun, play with the energy.
It's that simple.
Uhh… can you do anything other than just wait for the man?
You might be wondering
Whether there is anything else to do, more or less passively waiting for the man to appear on his own.
The problem is only if he hasn't appeared yet.
So read here
– what you can do to find him
- How you can make him want to meet you
– the mistake we typically keep repeating
After you read the blog
Have you learned that there are other options than just waiting for the right man.
I was asked that question by a woman from my Facebook group.
I became so excited at the same time that it rained down on me new questions such as…
- If your relationships haven't worked out well in the past, won't you be better able to deal with them now?
- If you think you've attracted the wrong men in the past, don't you want to learn how to attract the right ones?
- How long do you dare to wait? 1 year, 5 years, 10 years? Are you ready to wait your whole life? if it were to be
- How do you want to avoid your self-esteem being weakened by thinking that you are the one who is not loved?
It made me think about what I had done myself.
How my frustration kept the man at bay
It is frustrating when relationships fail one time after another.
The answer also took me on a journey back.
Because before I started succeeding in developing good relationships and meeting the right ones, I felt on the Lord's field.
I was totally crazy about failed relationships. .
The emotional strain at times felt like sitting in a centrifuge.
Without a stop button, and with a chaos of emotions swirling around
Why couldn't I figure out such a basic thing as a close relationship.
Apparently it was something everyone else was good at. My sister was especially good at it.
All that frustration only helped to keep the good men at bay.
Is the man more important than you?
Can you recognize that, like me, you get that ratio blown up to something close to a daily exam?
It was exhausting for both parties.
The constant need to confirm the other is important.
As my girlfriend says, I chose you because you are important.
However… I found out one essential thing that I kept repeating.
Every time I was in a relationship, I focused so much on the relationship,
that I completely neglected myself.
When it doesn't feel healthy.
When I started to see how harmful some of the patterns were
Both for me and love life,
I made some promises to myself.
The following decisions were made
The 3 agree with myself
It had all become so complicated, all the psychological talk took me further away from myself.
Therefore, I had to make it super simple.
So I could also figure out how to develop a healthy relationship.
I agreed…
- The relationship with myself must always come first
- A man will never be more important to me than I am to myself
- I will always love myself more than any man in my life.
How to make him want to meet you
Phew, that was a relief to come up with.
Therefore, I would also recommend that you navigate on your own
It is impossible to navigate from very different men - even if they look alike.
Think that by getting the work done with our own relationship problems, we can attract the right men
The peace it gives, not being dependent on the man is persistent and constant.
Thereby you only become dependent on having a good foundation to stand on.
It is especially good in bad weather.
The mistake we typically keep repeating
Afterwards I can see that my problem was
That I was always aware of where the man was focused
Was it on me? Was it others? Was he happy with me? Was he happy with me?
So by feeling myself, I also found out how to react before the problems became too big.
Just know that you have a focus on you and how the relationship feels in you.
Welcome home
Life
PS By telling my story, I can only say that it is a problem I often see many other women repeating, so if you can recognize it, you will benefit a lot from turning the focus back on yourself.
Do you wonder why you have relationship problems?
You might be wondering
- Whether your single status has anything to do with the past?
- How should you handle your dating challenges?
- Whether it is attachment trauma that prevents you from having a good relationship?
- Why does it not one, what you do, do not manage to find the right one?
So read here…
- what does attachment trauma mean?
– what you can do to get out of it
After reading the blog…
Can you better understand what can prevent you from finding love.
Why do I have so many relationship problems?
If you've struggled with a series of intensely volatile relationships, you may be wondering:
What is the reason for that?
Here, a deeper answer may be that an attachment trauma is activated unconsciously,
and causes problems in your close and current relationships.
If you repeat the same negative patterns, then it is worth looking into whether you have attachment trauma.
It is characteristic of trauma that we automatically replay it
and that we only realize this afterwards.
How did it start?
As a child, frightening or dangerous relationship experiences with parents may have made you
being afraid to enter into intimate relationships as an adult.
In family therapy, I have seen young people break their fingers,
when they have to tell the parents how it feels to not be seen and heard.
It can also be experiences with the ex that have left deep traces.
So instead of being sure that you are attracting the right ones based on a
safe and healthy place within yourself, you may end up doing the opposite.
For example, a man who ignores us, as father did.
So how can you form warm and secure bonds as an adult?
First, let's look at what an attachment trauma is.
What is attachment trauma?
Attachment trauma is a term that is often thrown around in our cultural
What exactly is it?
How can attachment trauma affect intimate relationships today?
A trauma means a psychological wound. It occurs when your nervous system is overwhelmed by a life-threatening,
frightening or dangerous event. And it can set in as an automatic reaction pattern,
Every time something like this happens, it can be overwhelming and overwhelming.
Therefore, the current event is experienced as just as 'dangerous' / unsafe as 'back then'
Trauma: when your nervous system is overwhelmed as a result of a life-threatening, frightening or dangerous event.
How do you get out of it?
If you find that just being in a relationship can feel unsafe, you can work on it yourself.
- see below what you can do and which precautions are important.
If you are struggling with a major attachment trauma, you are doing yourself a huge favor by getting help.
So you, right now, can improve your ability to be in or develop a relationship.
If you are in a relationship, couples therapy can be effective in resolving attachment trauma.
“There is no better place to heal than in the arms of someone you love. "
Do you keep doing what isn't working?
If you are like many people, you may not have realized
that what is at the root of your problems is insecure attachment.
I am writing this blog to reassure you to understand,
that there are good reasons why you and others behave the way they do.
At one point, you did the best you could to protect yourself.
These are just not strategies that are beneficial to a relationship.
Many who find it difficult to find the right one, struggle deep down with,
that it simply feels too dangerous to enter into a relationship.
So instead of struggling with it for years and spending a lot of energy trying to get into a relationship,
you really do not dare to enter into, it is better to solve this.
So you know you can be sure that you can have a healthy relationship.
Which of the three self-defense strategies do you usually use?
A good place to start is to notice what self-defense strategy you use when you are triggered
Can you recognize one or more of the following?
- Are you a fighter who wants to fight, and fight it until it's solved?
- Do you tend to run away when things get tough?
- Or are you freezing and don't know what to say or do?
If you feel like you are struggling with attachment challenges…
Try to imagine how it will improve your life if you change one of the above attachment patterns?
- Would it be easier for you to trust and fall in love?
- Would it be easier for you to maintain a calm and stable mood?
- Would you like to experience more freedom compared to just being yourself?
Remember that your safety is always the top priority. It is number 1 for daring to stay.
Here's what you can do
If you think there is a minor relationship pattern that you just weren't aware of, you can build basic trust by
- make sure to prevent overstimulation – i.e. that your dates should feel safe, predictable. Please make a time frame
- Be sure to deal with it when the problem does arise and
- Make sure you have time to regain your inner peace and balance afterwards.
- Be aware that you know your needs, so that it is not the man's needs that you focus on
- Take the conflicts, but do it in edible chunks - so it doesn't overwhelm you. You become more confident, strong and happy when you stand by yourself.
PS Be aware that if you yourself enter into a major attachment trauma, it can bring very painful,
difficult feelings for you.
Ask yourself if it is loving to be burdened by it for years. Instead, it can take weeks or months with the right help.
If you experience a psychological emergency, seek help.
It is important that you seek professional help from a trained trauma therapist so that you do not get worse.
you can read more about trauma here
Congratulations on reading the blog, so you show yourself,
that you will do what you can to give yourself a life of love
Life
Success in dating? – rest in your feminine energy
Is that you?
You will wish that more of your type of men are the ones you meet, that they will date you and meet again.
You may find it difficult to feel comfortable in the dating phase. Even if you make an extra effort of yourself.
So read here…
– what does it mean to be feminine on a date
– about the art of mastering feminine energy?
– what does the man want?
– how do you prepare for feminine energy before the date?
After reading the blog…
do you know what feminine energy is and how you are in contact with it on a date
What is feminine energy on the date?
Have you ever wondered: "Do you rest in your feminine energy when you are with a man?"
If not, it is especially crucial in the dating phase that you rest in your femininity. When you are in your feminine energy, it means
that you let the man take the lead. You can be flirtatious and funny, but you don't have to try to take control of the situation.
You are the feminine goddess that he is trying to impress.
He hunts, you don't!
So let him plan and let him impress you – especially at the beginning of dating.
Sit back, relax, and let him work for your feelings 😉
What is Feminine energy
- If you can master the art of femininity, you don't need to do, prove or worry about anything else.
- Harnessing the feminine energy is the ultimate key to unlocking what you truly desire.
- It's not about dressing feminine, it's about your ENERGY.
- This is what makes you attract the opposite energy, the masculine man you want to find.
Do you know the art of mastering feminine energy?
Let yourself be inspired here about what feminine energy is. Perhaps you already recognize several
- Feminine energy is the whole BODY: body space, heart space, feelings and emotions.
- Emotions do not define you, but are important information FOR you.
- If you want to become a master communicator with men, you must master the art of understanding: “What your body FEELS and what your heart FEELS and then express it.
- Feminine energy is the receiving part. It is a slower energy and confidence.
- Three sides of trust: 1) Trust the man. 2) Trust yourself. 3) Trust that everything is as it should be.
- A man wants to be the hero in your life. How can a man be the hero of your story if you always solve the problem?
- When you service your man, he no longer sees you as a lover, he sees you as a mother on a subconscious level.
- A man wants to stand up, but if you continue to be the mother role to him, he will not stand up, because people always choose the path of least resistance.
- The greatest gift you can give a man is your ability to show sensuality, tenderness AND your ability to RECEIVE from him, your ability to show appreciation for him.
What is a man looking for?
- A healthy masculine man is not impressed by a bossy attitude – your 'persuading energy'.
- Healthy masculine men are not looking for a business partner when they date.
- Healthy masculine men are impressed by your femininity.
- A man will always feel most loved by your ability to receive what he gives you.
How do you prepare for feminine energy before the date?
If you know you're going on a date or seeing your man, take an hour or two to get yourself into slow vibration:
Move your body slowly and softly
stretch,
light a candle,
clean your room,
listen to music.
make yourself feel comfortable and sexy. Not for him, but for yourself.
I wish you the most beautiful feminine flow date
Life 
Are you having a hard time getting over your ex?
My ex left me suddenly in Fælledparken. I sat in shock. Just him, activated such violent unrequited love that I could barely go to work for the next ½ year. Now I know that it was an attachment trauma I was triggered.
Is that you?
Can you recognize it? When you miss a boyfriend, you think at the same time that it shouldn't be...
a narcissist, someone who manipulates, or someone who doesn't respect you.
What if…
How would it be if instead you just look forward to meeting your next man?
Where you think the right people are contacting you. Where you can look back on some really fun and cozy dates.
Where you focus most on getting to know each other and developing your relationship.
So read here…
– This is how you learn to let go and separate yourself from past bad events
- How by spotting your own condition with care you can make it easier to let go of the ex
– a surprising thing you can do right now
After reading the blog…
My intention with the blog is to give you an experience of,
that you can do something to end the ex, or other bad relationship experiences
When the relationship is over
A relationship ends for reasons that you can spend a lot of time recovering from afterwards.
Have you tried to get absorbed in analyzing 'why it didn't work'?
Perhaps to such an extent that you forget: "Right now, you are actually living in the past."
Other times, you can't imagine that a new man doesn't have to look like the ex.
Did you give the relationship too many tries?
Sometimes we force ourselves to give the relationship another try.
It could mean that the problems you experienced in the relationship remained unresolved –
inside you.
It can lead to a second breakdown, which is worse and more painful than the first.
This particular state of feeling can be so difficult that many people never really get out of it again
That's why I want to share with you what you can do to let go of your ex.
Self care is the answer
Daily self-care has a calming, healing and restorative effect.
When you create a strong and safe foundation to completely let go of the ex,
is easier to find the love you long for.
Surrender to the present
There can be sadness in saying goodbye to the past. In recognizing that it didn't work out between you and your boyfriend.
Or that you did not previously have the necessary learning to succeed in a relationship.
That's what you're about to learn now.
Remind yourself of..
Often the hardest thing about a breakup is not the breakup itself, but the thoughts about it all:
There could have been
Love yourself for all that you learned from the relationship. All that you can now take with you to your next relationship.
You can learn to contain the feeling
Learn to contain and release the inner pain instead of avoiding it.
How? By taking one step at a time.
It is a beautiful, deep and healing experience to release the pain instead of avoiding it.
When the pain came, everything seemed unbearable.
This often causes us to shut down our emotions.
As you heal the wounds, you can gradually open up and feel alive again.
Use these 3 principles
- create 'islands' of security in your everyday life that you can 'land' on after you have had contact with the inner sea of pain:
For example, a daily walk, soothing music, creative activities, conversations with near and dear ones, edifying reading, etc.
- feel the pain in small manageable chunks, a little bit at a time – the sadness, the helplessness, the despair, the abandonment. Then step back from the emotions and return to a positive and calming activity.
- share some of the experience of mental pain with others. Only to the extent that it feels ok. Trauma is often linked to loneliness, everything we have gone through alone. Therefore, it is an important process to share – in moderation. This is essential in order not to retraumatize.
If your family, partner or friends cannot understand you, seek professional help
Right now you have the opportunity to move forward, rather than isolating yourself.
What do you do if he starts talking about the ex
Do you know it??
You get the feeling that you are just the background on which he paints? Where you yourself disappear in other people's conflicts. Maybe even that you have to save him because it's so hard – argh…
So read here…
- What is good to do on the first date
- And the simple but indispensable thing you must never ignore in the beginning of the relationship
- Why is it so hard to say it out loud?
After reading the blog…
When you have read the blog, you will know more about what it takes for dating to be a good and fun experience.
Can you keep your balance on the 1st date?
Maybe you already think from home that you want to keep a light atmosphere and yet serious get-togethers. Where you neither blurt out your entire life story – nor are you totally cool and reserved out of sheer nervousness.
And you comply with all that.
He just doesn't.
He completely forgot to consider: "What if he gets too emotionally involved and can't keep his balance himself."
Suddenly you are on the sidelines and experience yourself as his couples therapist.
Totally overlooked as wonderful girlfriend potential.
Reasons not to reveal too much – too soon
So why is it not so smart to give away too much about your personal life on first dates.
Telling too much about private details can be overwhelming for both you and him.
Be it work problems, family problems and your past relationships.
Even if these challenges on your way say everything about you, dating is more about you wanting to get to know each other more.
What does the conflict say about you?
It is crucial to focus on a good dating experience where you get to know each other.
Then it is not a good starting point if he starts to think whether you are problematic.
Therefore, avoid putting yourself in that situation.
Another weighty reason is if we get too emotionally upset.
This makes it difficult to build a good relationship at the same time if we are preoccupied with our own problems
Where the problems are clearer than your date.
If… what can you do?
Imagine that already on one of the first dates, he mentions his ex in a certain problem.
I would recommend that you respond to that. Just with a small note.
Maintain that you and him must be in the center as it is right now
'you and him', it's about.
Keep the focus on yourself
Therefore... notice how it actually feels like he has made the ex into a problem. Although you only notice this when you get home. So use it as valuable knowledge for next time. Because you are already in the process of creating the kind of relationship you have dreamed of all your life.
It may be that you notice you get restlessness in the solar plexus or tense your jaws. Whatever you notice, share this with him. Or say in a light way: "I can feel myself getting very restless/worried."
And add,
I don't know how to solve this for you.
And finally let him answer this!
You can also choose the direct route
If you would like to keep yourself a little more distant at first, you can choose to ask straight out:
"Do you wish she was the one sitting here so you could sort it out?"
It's a pretty direct way, but you show him how it can feel to have to listen to their problems.
In addition, you will be shown that you would like to be allowed to experience yourself as the most significant at this moment.
Depending on the reaction you get, you then have to decide whether you want to break up - or stay.
When it's hard to say out loud
There can be several reasons why it is difficult to react to him talking about the ex.
It may partly be that you at least don't want to come across as the jealous type,
don't seem too cold and indifferent
or that you have come to take the Little Girl with you to town.
She who is not mature enough to take care of herself when the real world does not feel nice.
Here it can be good to just go to the toilet. To give you time to shake off the Little Girl.
When you come back after focusing on you, as a grown woman, you will be better able to handle the situation.
Stick to the fact that you want to get a light and pleasant first impression of each other.
Have fun creating dates you look forward to
Life :-)
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Love is the essence of life and YOU
Love is a mixture of feelings, behaviors and beliefs associated with strong emotions
of affection, protection, warmth and respect for another person.
What is love really?
Love is a favorite subject for us humans. For generations, philosophers, poets, writers and scientists have tried to define it.
While most people agree that love involves strong feelings of affection,
there are many disagreements about its precise meaning.
One person's "I love you" can mean something completely different than someone else's.
When you long for love..
When you long for love, what are you really longing for?
Maybe they can recognize the women's answers when I talk to them:
Twoness, inner peace, joy, physical presence, chemistry and Freedom.
Love can also be:
- A willingness to prioritize another's well-being or happiness over your own.
- Extreme feelings of attachment, affection and need.
- Dramatic, sudden feelings of attraction and respect.
- A fleeting feeling of care, affection and the like.
- A choice to commit to helping, respecting and caring for another, such as in marriage or when having a child.
- A combination of the above feelings.
Only you know what love is like for you. It can change wind direction, or it can feel like a lifelong choice.
Love & Desire
Especially in the early stages of a relationship, it can be difficult to tell the difference between love and lust.
Both are associated with physical attraction and an intoxicating rush of feel-good chemicals, especially oxytocin.
That, combined with an often overwhelming desire to be closer to another person, just feels like love.
Lust or love?
I wonder if you have already considered a number of times: Is this lust or love?
Lust often has to do with the sex-driven sensations that initially draw people towards each other.
Although it doesn't sound so romantic, it is primarily driven by the urge to procreate.
Characterized by sex hormones and idealistic infatuation.
Our desires obscure our ability to see a person as he or she really is.
LOOKING BEHIND THE VEIL OF DESIRE
If it is a long-term relationship you are looking for, you probably want to be able to see the veil of desire
You probably think that you, this time, made a wise choice.
In order to make good decisions for yourself, you need to be in a more emotional and neutral state.
And this is exactly where the chain jumps off for many. Right? :-)
Give your imagination legs to walk on
Have you clarified whether you are living in fantasies about what love is like?
I did that myself for many years. My imaginings were completely unrealistic.
This meant I ignored when the man criticized me or spoke disparagingly.
As a result, there were many thoughts and feelings that I did not allow.
I only want the rosy clouds
Since love was not something I really knew, it turned into the rosy clouds I had never seen in the sky.
You know enough that you get the following realizations when the relationship doesn't last anymore
All the times you ignored how many parties he talked about, went to, how good he was at sneaking out of important issues,
These are all crucial warning lights that we have learned to ignore, because in Wonderland they don't come in that color.
Love and mental health
It must go along, the healthy love.
Although almost no one can agree on a single definition of love, most agree that love plays an essential role.
Both for our physical and mental well-being. Numerous studies have shown the benefits of love. The role of love in mental health is far-reaching.
I think it is thought-provoking that if love is missing the following can happen...
- The fact that babies who are not shown love and affection in the form of frequent holding and hugging can be developmentally delayed or sick.
- Feeling unloved is strongly correlated with feelings of low self-esteem and depression.
- People who both feel loved by others and who report that they love other people tend to be happier.
- Love can play a role in long-term health, and emotional connectedness can help boost immunity.
Or, as I also understand Peter Pooh's quote...: "Feelings of love are the essence of everything in our lives. "
If you, as a woman, would like to have a love conversation with me, then you are welcome.
Love from Life
About John's Life
I am your love therapist coach & relationship expert, blogger and trauma therapist. Finding love has been big for me and I'd love to help you right away. I know nothing better than to help others clear obstacles out of the way so that love becomes a natural part of life. I do that with people from all over the world. Read more: About Life John's
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