THE COST OF HAVING A BOYFRIEND

What are you willing to trade to find love with The One and Only?

To bring more love into your life, someone to enjoy life with, twoness, a go-to-dinner partner and to

satisfy the need for physical contact – it's all about trade-offs.

To say "yes" to something, you have to say "no" to something else. And vice versa.

For example:

• Saying "yes" to your longing to have someone to come home to can mean saying "no" to daily overtime.
• Saying "yes" to love can mean saying "no" to closing your heart in - again.
• Saying "yes" to taking care of yourself can mean saying "no" to the wrong men - in time.
• Saying "yes" to getting out of a 30-year pattern of familiar but insecure love can mean saying "no" to repeating the negative predictions of the past.
• Saying "yes" to being feminine on a date can mean saying "no" to controlling it.
• Saying "yes" to "one step at a time" can mean saying no to "frustration and giving up" about the future.

What behavior are you willing to exchange?

We all have limited time, resources, concentration and awareness.

What are you willing to trade to find love and hold on to your desire for more love in your life without ending up on the couch because it's easier and more predictable?

RIGHT NOW:

• What are you prepared to say "yes" to?
• What are you prepared to say "no" to?
• Which of the things you want to accomplish will you do first?
• What will you have to stop doing to start engaging wholeheartedly in coaching?

There are no right or wrong answers. Only choices and compromises.

It's your decision. You decide 100% about your course.

Below I just want to give you some options for finding love:

1. Become aware of whether you are more concerned with whether your date likes you than how you feel (meaning that you focus on whether you find love, not whether he does). We never get past the fact that the first rule in love is to be honest with yourself (that is, if you have a good feeling inside after spending time with a date). You can listen to yourself, use a stress-relieving method on the date, a friend's experience, ask other friends for advice or a whole fourth method of your choice.
2. Train yourself in better self-esteem and self-care– If you make a list of the 3 most frequent pitfalls in previous relationships. Such as the fact that he was allowed to criticize or speak badly to you, that you were more attentive to following his needs than knowing what you wanted to do together.
3. Be more socially outgoing- he finds it difficult to find you if you are lying at home on the sofa or you appear unapproachable. Make sure you are contactable. Use eye contact as a means of daring to 'meet' on a deeper level. Know that you can take care of yourself - even now that you are more socially open. The secret is knowing you are taking care of yourself at the same time. Such as meeting for the first time over video or for a limited time. For example, a maximum of 1 hour in a café so as not to exceed your own limits.