Secrets of love for women over 40
The Secrets of Love for Women over 40... there are many of them, but it is surprising that it is the mature men who reveal one of the most important ones that only the woman herself can change.
That is why they are looking for a younger woman.
The men admit that the reasons why they choose younger women is that they are not so burdened by Love Wounds: They are happier and more satisfied in the relationship.
It hits women hard, but those who recognize it are also those who struggle with the desire for a relationship. Unfortunately, they don't do what it takes to attract the right partner.
Although very understandable, the price is high. It may take a 'rescuer' to get the woman to let go of something from the past. As a couples therapist, let me say: That I have only experienced that it comes with a price, and that it is only the woman herself who can heal the wounds.
The mature man who chooses much younger women
When I read that billionaire Petter Stordalens had a new girlfriend, I immediately thought:
She is guaranteed to be much younger than him. Damm… she was, 27 years old!
The most important secret to creating a happy love life is to live the life where you feel the happiness of love and where you can rediscover the joy in you when you encounter the man's different thoughts and ways. You do this because you are in an active relationship where they react rather than freeze and analyze.
An important question to ask yourself: How can you, as a mature woman, avoid bringing the bitterness and disappointment of the past into a new relationship?
Avoid the Baggage of the Past
As a mature woman, you have some life experience, and probably also previous relationships that didn't work out. The easiest and most natural thing is to let the previous disappointments or painful experiences shape your view of a new relationship. If not, it should be covered by the category: He must not... but that you react instead. Whenever.
What is the most important thing here?
It's every single time you hear a remark that has an impact like a lightning missile that pops into your head!
React to the situation! ALWAYS
Being paralyzed prevents you from living in the present
When you meet a new man, allow yourself to see how he affects you. Stay more in yourself, rather than pass into the eyes of the judge. Ask active questions. Show your joy, (forget you are afraid of choosing wrongly) when he does or says something that makes your chest warm.
The worst thing you can do?
It is transferring negative experiences to your inner account. Because here the 'bills' pile up. Relate to your feelings here and now. When something makes you happy or annoys you, notice how you experience it and express it from you - not from the critic.
Communication is key.
And the solution is to be present in the moment. It helps you experience true happiness and love without being weighed down by the burdens of the past. Every time you think critical thoughts, you let them pass
By communicating what you experience, sense and feel - sometimes a look is enough - you are in the process of creating exactly the relationship you want
Dear woman, you have a lot to offer and your past experiences have shaped you into the strong woman you are today.
Be you: "Like the Younger - inside
As true as has been said countless times: Love knows no age. Open your heart and be open to new adventures. As mature women, you have a unique blend of wisdom, strength and beauty.
You release oceans of energy when you are vividly present and react when something makes you happy or buzzes in your ears - let go of the bitterness of the past because NOW you know what is not okay.
Embrace love and it will embrace you – forget the limitations of the past. After all, they are the ones you learned from
Enjoy Summer to the Full: From Regret to Celebration.
Summer is in full swing, and it's a time many of us look forward to with fun experiences, sunshine and joy. Therefore, it can feel discouraging if you instead activate feelings of regret and longing for not having the expected boyfriend or partner by your side.
It's a completely natural way to react, especially when it contrasts with what you'd otherwise expect. It makes many feel lonely or sad, especially if we see other couples enjoying the summer together.
But! What if…
What if, instead of letting worries take over, you choose to create the summer of your dreams and celebrate the time you have for yourself?
That's what vacation is
Vacation really means relaxing. How is it possible to really relax if regret takes up so much? Neither is it. We need to let go of regret, to give more space to relaxed warmth.
The first step towards creating the summer of your dreams is to let go of the worries and regrets about what you don't have. Accept that you are currently single and don't let it define your summer. When you release negativity, you create space to focus on the positive.
New options:
Embrace the Possibilities: Summer is full of opportunities for fun and adventure. Take the initiative to participate in events, arrangements or activities that interest you. It can be anything from a spontaneous picnic in the park to signing up for a summer workshop, painting or a dance class. Be open to new experiences and you'll be surprised how much fun you can have alone or with new friends. Remember the most important thing! Forget criticizing… the possibilities.
Travel out into the world
Travel the World: If the opportunity presents itself, take a solo trip or weekend trip to a place you've always wanted to visit. Exploring new places will give you a sense of adventure and freedom while creating unforgettable memories.
Pamper Yourself
Treat Yourself: Summer is the perfect time for self-indulgence. Go to wellness, get a massage, enjoy a delicious summer dinner or take a walk on the beach with a good book. When you prioritize your own well-being, you will feel more satisfied and happy. Bonus effect, when you pamper yourself, you exude dignity.
Create new contacts
Make Connections: Go out and meet new people. Summer is a great time to expand your social network. Participate in social events, meet new friends, and who knows, maybe you'll meet an interesting person along the way.
Practice the most important contact
When you practice self-love, you both gain more confidence in yourself and get to know yourself better. By being your own best friend and showing yourself love and care, you accept yourself for who you are. Thereby, you can also better accept that your future boyfriend is also an ordinary man. When you love yourself, you will attract positive experiences and people into your life.
Are the friends at home?
Share Experiences With Friends: Invite your friends along for summer adventures. It's always more fun to experience things together, and you can create amazing memories with those who matter to you.
What are you grateful for…
Focus On Gratitude: Practice being grateful for everything you have in your life. When you focus on the positive, you will attract more of the same.
So let's take the step together from regret to celebration. Create your dream summer and enjoy every moment of this wonderful time. Life is full of opportunities, and summer is a perfect opportunity to embrace them. Remember that you deserve to have a great summer, whether you're single or not. Make summer a time you long for and be aware that being alone doesn't have to mean loneliness. Rejoice in the small joys, because there is so much to celebrate in life.
Happy summer from Liv
How to stick with the date… when he becomes reluctant
How do you stick to the date – when you want him to stay because you think he could be the one?
If you can recognize similar situations where you would like to have more knowledge about what you can do to attract the person you are interested in, here are some tips on how you can handle the stressful situation that meeting a new date.
Perhaps even more important…. how you can avoid thinking afterwards: "Why didn't he just say it right away?"
Read more about how you can handle such vulnerable situations.
When you're interested in a man and feel like there's potential for something more, it can be frustrating if he starts to hold back. But don't despair! There are still actions you can take to maintain the connection and hopefully build a stronger relationship.
Here are some suggestions to help you
The patience phase
Be patient and understanding: When a man becomes reluctant, it can be due to various reasons. It is important to be patient and show understanding. Ask him openly and honestly how he is feeling and be responsive to his feelings and concerns. Let him know that you are there for him and want to find a solution together.
Hold on to your independence
Maintain your own independence: Even if you are interested in him, it is important to maintain your own independence and continue to live your life to the fullest. Continue to pursue your own interests, spend time with friends and family, and continue to be the independent woman he was originally attracted to. This shows that you have your own life and it can make you more attractive and interesting to him.
Video shows, contact, interest presence.
When you meet
When you meet, it is crucial that you bring your feminine energy into play and create a pleasant atmosphere where your date enjoys being together. Be present in the moment, show interest and listen actively, express your femininity and create a relaxed and playful atmosphere. By being authentic and using your feminine energy in a natural way, you contribute to a wonderful dating experience.
Time to communicate
Communicate openly and honestly: Good communication is essential in any relationship. When he becomes reluctant, it is important to open up the conversation and talk about your feelings and expectations. Be honest about your own needs and wants and actively listen to what he has to say. That way you can find out together if there is anything that can be changed or improved to strengthen the connection.
(self-) Confidence
Be yourself and show confidence: It is important to remember that you are a valuable person with a lot to offer. Be authentic and be yourself on the date. Show confidence and that you believe that you deserve to be with a man who is as interested in you as you are in him. If he sees your confidence and strength, it can motivate him to open up more and invest more in the relationship.
A good way to strengthen your confidence is to deal with the situation from the beginning, where you have no idea for months whether he is interested or not. You can ensure yourself that you avoid thinking afterwards: "Why didn't he just say it right away?"
So strengthen your confidence by getting it sorted out: Whether he is genuinely interested in you or not. D
This way you avoid giving up on love afterwards.
Wouldn't it be a pity just because a man has been indecisive?
Happy Love Journey from Life
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How you can believe in love - again.
Over 40 and ready for a boyfriend... afraid you don't look good enough?
Do you recognize it too?
You are over 40 and really ready for a relationship, but you are afraid that you don't look good enough?
It means that you fear love based on your appearance.
See how you can nourish love with loving feelings right now.
Previously a hidden problem?
Maybe appearance has always been a problem for you, so see here how you can change your mind
to your strength and more self-awareness.
Thought provoking that I have heard quite a few women say in the last few days
-my appearance is the biggest obstacle, otherwise I'm Boyfriend Ready.
And it is certainly relevant!
I myself have struggled with thinking I should look perfect
to be able to attract the right man.
...then one day I had enough and decided to change that...!
Oh my God, it was hard because I found out that I did just that,
the worst thing you can do to make more men want to get to know me better.
And it was a breakthrough that it had nothing to do with appearance.
The biggest dating killer
The worst trait in a dating situation I had learned was to be: Skeptical!
and I could see that it was much worse than if I weighed 10 kg more or less,
had loose or tight skin.
I saw that in the women the men chose instead of me.
My skepticism left the man with a bad feeling,
and my behavior, gave me neither more strength nor self-insight.
Worst of all
the men felt like getting their legs on their necks.
A change only occurred when I began to find more self-loving ways.
Therefore, you can do nothing better than to use your appearance to
dare love – again. Start with 3 simple ways:
Challenge your thoughts
Notice which negative thoughts pop up the next time you think about your appearance.
Notice in particular whether they are realistic or exaggerated?
Then see what happens when you replace them with more positive and realistic thoughts.
For example, 'if I compare myself to colleagues of the same age, I can see that this is the course of nature.'
Now notice how you then think about yourself…
Are you investing in yourself?
A woman in my network tells me she feels ugly and unloved.
I recognize that when I see her. However, I also see many beautiful basic features.
And took it upon myself to give her a stylist so she gets a different hairstyle and glasses (emoji)
It is often decisive that we also put action behind our thoughts, so in that situation
you can't do something better to feel loved than by spoiling yourself.
Whether it's a trip to the hairdresser, spa or new clothes that make you feel good.
Investing in yourself and your appearance can be a big confidence boost.
Switch! – thoughts
First of all, love is not perfect.
It is the feeling we get inside that makes us want more love.
It can help to accept that you are not perfect.
Most men also have things about their appearance that they are not 100% happy with.
One trick is to avoid comparing yourself to others.
Say: "Change!" every time you compare yourself, especially to those under 40.
Because you will never be 25 again.
So spare yourself the inadequate thoughts and feelings.
By consciously turning your thoughts to
strength and self-awareness.
I myself love to use 'Change', because it gives presence.
If you would like to work on becoming Girlfriend Ready, I will give you the opportunity to participate in my workshop Wed 24/5 2023
And the two best things about it are…
1. It can give you the most beautiful man who wants more than anything to have a woman present who makes him feel amazing!
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Psst I was told that unfortunately there are many who waste many years getting a lot of good advice, but where the change only happens when we start doing something else, during the ENTIRE dating process. It is not enough to simply create a dating profile - which looks like everyone else's, or to have control over the appearance.
Quick test: Is he the right one?
The most important thing in the beginning is to be able to determine whether he is the right one...
Have you thought more deeply about what it is that makes you think a man is the right one?
It may be that what is decisive for you is not just whether he is understanding or not, nor kun, if he treats you with respect…
Rather, it is the sum of several important areas he must fulfill.
See here if you can recognize the reasons why you feel he is the right one or not.
For me, all 3 of them have had a great impact on the longevity of my relationships - i.e. when I first learned to date ;-)
1. Do you like his scent?
After 12 years I know this holds. Because I was immediately physically attracted to my husband and like to be close to him.
The fact that you like the man's fragrances makes it more likely that he matches you, so you don't have to use willpower in the long run when the days of falling in love are over.
2. Is he the right one - among others
Do you like to hear him, see him and experience him when you are out together. I enjoy the way my husband meets friends.
They get the great pleasure of seeing each other again. Who hasn't tried curling toes when he is with family and friends.
It is important
that you are proud of him and can see that he both gives and receives respect. These are good dating signs.
3. Are you going to stay with him?
I often use the 'post-meeting test', immediately I leave a meeting (this does not only apply to the boyfriend).
Because here you get the most honest answer to: How you feel comfortable with yourself and whether he is good for you.
If not… we can tend to analyze ourselves away from something that is not good enough:
"He also said he had had a really stupid day." are typical explanations.
If you have to justify him too much in order for you to feel respected by him, something is wrong here.
With 'the post-meeting test', you can honestly feel:
- whether you feel important and good as who you are?
- feel appreciated?
- experience you as smart, good, funny and just beautiful as you are.
Isn't it just nice to be able to experience yourself as good enough as you are?
Have fun from Liv
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Have fun
That made Line Nervous and Surprised...but most of all grateful
–
It got behind me
When I talked to Line,
it surprised me
that it was not
the feminine exercises she had enjoyed performing,
that had such a great effect on her
in the coaching process.
The effect was most important
Instead, it was the exercise,
that opens up that love
she later shared with friends – probably also an ex.
She found that she could
maintain own comfort zone
She didn't have to say: "I love you."
It was just as well to say: "I care about you..."
Here she became untouchable in the face of resistance
She now does the exercise mentioned above for 5 minutes. daily
So little was needed
before she rediscovered a strong longing
to find the right man.
A desire she got released when she found out 'how‘.
The solution was just around the corner…
The solution was to connect with those resources
that was so unique to her.
When she was in the creative, creating space she was strong & free
She knew how to find that easily
At the same time, she became immune to several things
from putting self-esteem to the test,
to fear rejection or accept 'nothing' from the man.
Most important: Self-esteem enough to avoid the wrong ones.
It was touching to hear about her new desire to find the right one.
You can do that yourself
I know you have neither the coaching course
or the book in which the exercise is written
So that's why I'm going to suggest you this…
Start with something as simple as:
-
Look in the mirror every morning
Say out loud
2. “This is how a beloved woman looks
in a long-term relationship out!”
Why is it so good?
It is effective.
Because you train your brain to:
- more energy on love – neurons that light up
- to want to attract love
Above: The old network... about repeating the past. The one that made you close to love.
If you would like to read more about the book, you can find it here and read 1st chapter free
or buy it here…
Good love journey towards finding love
Life :-)
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I am your love therapist coach & relationship expert, blogger and trauma therapist. Finding love has been big for me and I'd love to help you right away. I know nothing better than to help others clear obstacles out of the way so that love becomes a natural part of life. I do that with people from all over the world. Read more: About Life John's
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