Are you going to build a future with him?

It can be difficult to determine if anxiety and lack of security are as important as joy and love in your new relationship.

Read here what you can do, so certainty and predictability are the foundations you build your love life on.

When the relationship is new…

Starting a new relationship can be both exciting and scary. It's like opening a new book where every page is blank and you don't know what will happen the next time you turn the page. In the beginning, the question of whether you should build a future together often fills your mind.

But it's as if when you become unsure of him and feel a pressure on your heart, it's the trauma of the past that haunts you, rather than the joy of the future. How does this make sense?

You just know that the relationships you've experienced that didn't go as you had hoped, those wounds you don't want to rip open again.

You are not the problem

You're not the problem if he's swinging in the switch, but you're the one left with the frustration if it makes you doubt him. You wait for his messages, his calls or his initiative to see you again and it makes you insecure. Once the nervous system is troubled, it runs outward: "Should I not have confided in him... , what won't he think of me after... , doesn't he think I'm exciting enough?" Am I too much or too little? Am I not smart enough, pretty enough, or interesting enough, or am I too pretty?”

But you want the solution

So how do you get DisasterFires out?

It is during the waiting period that the uncertain feelings emerge. You want confirmation that he's interested in you too when he doesn't return as quickly as you need. If you want to get rid of the problem, how can you take the bull by the horns so that his possible love traumas don't end up with you?

You do that by making sure there are two of you around it. Explore with him: "What will it take for it to be possible for you to continue?" Then you will also find out how dedicated he is ;-).

Past relationship trauma

Like you, he may have experienced relationships that did not go as desired. By showing him your vulnerability and your feelings, he can see that he is not alone. By showing this side of each other, you can change uneasiness to joy at having found each other. From there, it is easier to take the next step in the relationship - together. But one of you has to start by risking…

That is why you must avoid analysis-forfeiture and engage in dialogue!

When you replace analysis that gives uncertainty away with handling the challenge, you will be able to better feel your own value and attractiveness. And you get to see his immediate reaction to you when you authentically put into words something that is unknown to him.

A healthy approach turns into open communication. Be honest with yourself so you can be honest with him about how you feel. Ask him how he feels about your relationship. It can help create clarity and understanding for you - and between you.

Remember you deserve happiness

Remember that you deserve a partner who is willing to invest in the relationship and overcome challenges. By starting now, you will find out if you can build a healthy and loving relationship where you are both committed and open to growth.

I wish you the most wonderful relationship

Kh Life

If you think it's uphill to start the difficult conversations, then right now I'm offering a 15-minute free love conversation,

Together we will find out how you can get joy and certainty without having so many worrying thoughts.  

Do not hesitate to seize this special chance, while you can feel how important it is.

I look forward to helping you on your journey to love! ❤️