When you look back at how much love has filled your life

with family, friends and lovers…

what feeling does it give you then?

is it the sense of optimism that there is 'hope ahead'?

Have you thought about realizing your hope by having a cut-off date?

Would you like to meet him right now, yesterday, or ok it won't happen until 20 years from now?

Your time estimate determines how you search for love.

Getting lucky with love

I had not learned how to succeed with healthy love

I only knew how to lick my wounds

-not years, but decades.

If I hadn't made an active decision to find a boyfriend

I still wouldn't have learned how.

My Cutoff Date made all the difference.

My life before I I set cut-off dates

When I used to want to do something new

-became the terminus of desire: What will the 'neighbour' say?

Yep that meant (almost) every time…

I didn't 'do' any of that…

such as making myself visible to him, write reader posts, be politically active, give lectures...

Stop wasting time

You know how you can always find a good reason not to do something?

When I get the thought and then feel that there is energy behind it

Then I plan to quietly get started

I start walking… and learn from there about my next step

Fulfill what you long for

Today I know what the problem was…

By daring to show who i am, I developed my self-esteem at the same time

By doing what I dream of… I became better at living.

And! I got better at it to love myself and others

Staying at home on the couch for decades made me dumber,

it wore on self-esteem on loneliness when isolation was the answer.

Do you want to learn to fly?

Imagine you want to learn to fly!

If you've never learned, it's with life as effort.

Love can hurt so much

that it is with our joy and self-confidence as effort.

Therefore, it is crucial to learn: "Never give more than you can stand to lose."

I clearly remember my own approach: "I want to be able to do it myself."

until a wise woman asked:

“Why do you want to waste so many years trying to figure it out for yourself,

when, with the right help, you can solve your problems now?”

What is your cut off date

My cut off date made all the difference.

It often happens that once we have set off, the journey itself becomes so good,

that the cut-off date to reach a certain place loses its meaning... and isn't it easier to be alone?

Still, I would say if you allow yourself the love

the happiness and joy will be greater, because you will learn much more about yourself. Even if the following happens:  

• We ALL have ups and downs!
• We ALL doubt ourselves!
• We ALL have times of uncertainty and when we ask questions about love!

We all encounter doubts, fears and close our eyes

For me, training myself out of victim mode had a HUGE effect.

Wow, how it has hampered me and what long tentacles the condition has.

Again, it's my cutoff dates that helped me.

Otherwise I will have been stuck in grief over how unfair it was.

Where is your focus?

There is a big difference between whether you choose to look for love or hope it will happen.

With a cut-off date that meets your needs,

will you already be able to experience love now by fulfilling…

• Caring – to myself
• Pay attention to thinking more positively about yourself - strengthen your self-esteem:
• Remind you OPENING MY HEART - does not equal giving it away
• Daily show: THAT I LOVE MYSELF
• Let go of the fear of… hold on to the dream instead
• Say goodbye to the 'pretty girl' and embark on the journey of the sensual woman…
• Better to FEEL what you feel - instead of soothing the emotions with sweets, Netflix, shopping, sex, etc...

Wishing you the best journey of love

Life :-)