Do you also experience that you are frustrated that you have not yet succeeded in finding the right one?

 Hyes... then maybe you've tried deep breathing, neglecting your need for love, or meditating to no avail.

Then I might have the solution for you, about what you must NOT do if you dream of finding love with the right one.

After you read the blog, you know what it takes to get out of frustration.  

Clara was looking for a man

One of my friends, Clara, made a post in the salsa network the other day.

She is looking for a man for the summer salsa camp.

Although she is a beautiful and smiling woman, I'm pretty sure no one approaches.

Because there is a great lack of men in the environment.

Her and I will get to talk about what she can do to attract someone in the environment.

Both she and many single women match general surveys about our well-being,

the studies show that "frustrated" is the most frequently chosen emotion for women.

Can you recognize it?

What starts frustration?

You probably recognize yourself that frustration is about experiencing,

that there is nothing you can do to achieve the desired change.

Frustration is a normal reaction to situations where needs are not met.

Just think of women's frustration with societal conditions outside and at home that cannot be easily resolved.

Still, it is thought provoking…

It is thought-provoking that Clara does nothing on a daily basis that gives her more male salsa contacts.

Not hard to guess if her expectation is realistic or not.

Therefore, she has to make herself visible

The more I write, the more I can see the coincidence of wanting a boyfriend.

How much do you do that leads you in the right direction?

-besides hoping the right men find you?

Do you do too little

or too much of the wrong thing?

I myself did too little and the frustration filled about 90 %

Clara tries to ignore,

that where she fishes is almost extinct for fish.

What if she did something else?

We need to find concrete ways to work towards a change.

Read if you are curious about your frustration [otherwise continue to the next section]

Frustration is a feeling related to irritation, which belongs to the register of anger.

I usually talk to my clients that anger is an expression of a need that we are not getting fulfilled.

You should preferably avoid experiencing it as an insurmountable obstacle.

Because you fall into the pit of hopelessness – a painful place to land and can be time-consuming

– someone spends many years here.

Perhaps you recognize pessimism, which signals an absence of hope and a lack of faith in better days.

Important that you renew your hope - daily!

Hope, on the other hand, is an extremely positive feeling, here we focus on the belief that something good will happen.

Although “hope is not a strategy”, at least hope is fuel to keep the fire going.

As optimism and a sense of anticipation,

makes us more likely to work for it to succeed.

Choose the right network

There are many examples of it being the small group of dedicated people with a common goal that creates the change.

just think about equality. Therefore, seek out supportive communities, as many already do.

Look for creative ways to achieve “wins”.

Like Clara, who can instead solve her problem by channeling more mental energy into considering,

where she expands the salsa network, which ensures her small victories that build self-confidence.

In my coaching group, the celebration round is one of the most important energy boosts.

When the women happily and contentedly talk about their courage to try new things,

I see that they are moving mountains of obstacles and becoming more optimistic.

An oft-repeated phrase is: "I don't understand at all how I could meet someone like him."

Of course, you can still meditate

I do. Meditation, going for a walk and deep breathing provide temporary relief from frustration.

In order to change the condition, it is crucial that you deal with the frustration,

bigger than a traffic jam, running out of milk or misplacing your keys.

What an exciting journey it will be, Liv