Uhh… can you do anything other than just wait for the man?

You might be wondering

Whether there is anything else to do, more or less passively waiting for the man to appear on his own.

The problem is only if he hasn't appeared yet.

So read here

– what you can do to find him

- How you can make him want to meet you

– the mistake we typically keep repeating

After you read the blog

Have you learned that there are other options than just waiting for the right man.

I was asked that question by a woman from my Facebook group.

I became so excited at the same time that it rained down on me new questions such as…

• If your relationships haven't worked out well in the past, won't you be better able to deal with them now?
• If you think you've attracted the wrong men in the past, don't you want to learn how to attract the right ones?
• How long do you dare to wait? 1 year, 5 years, 10 years? Are you ready to wait your whole life? if it were to be
• How do you want to avoid your self-esteem being weakened by thinking that you are the one who is not loved?

It made me think about what I had done myself.

How my frustration kept the man at bay

It is frustrating when relationships fail one time after another.

The answer also took me on a journey back.

Because before I started succeeding in developing good relationships and meeting the right ones, I felt on the Lord's field.

I was totally crazy about failed relationships. .

The emotional strain at times felt like sitting in a centrifuge.

Without a stop button, and with a chaos of emotions swirling around

Why couldn't I figure out such a basic thing as a close relationship.

Apparently it was something everyone else was good at. My sister was especially good at it.

All that frustration only helped to keep the good men at bay.

Is the man more important than you?

Can you recognize that, like me, you get that ratio blown up to something close to a daily exam?

It was exhausting for both parties.

The constant need to confirm the other is important.

As my girlfriend says, I chose you because you are important.

However… I found out one essential thing that I kept repeating.

Every time I was in a relationship, I focused so much on the relationship,

that I completely neglected myself.

When it doesn't feel healthy.

When I started to see how harmful some of the patterns were

Both for me and love life,

I made some promises to myself.

The following decisions were made

The 3 agree with myself

It had all become so complicated, all the psychological talk took me further away from myself.

Therefore, I had to make it super simple.

So I could also figure out how to develop a healthy relationship.

I agreed…

1. The relationship with myself must always come first
2. A man will never be more important to me than I am to myself
3. I will always love myself more than any man in my life.

How to make him want to meet you

Phew, that was a relief to come up with.

Therefore, I would also recommend that you navigate on your own

It is impossible to navigate from very different men - even if they look alike.

Think that by getting the work done with our own relationship problems, we can attract the right men

The peace it gives, not being dependent on the man is persistent and constant.

Thereby you only become dependent on having a good foundation to stand on.

It is especially good in bad weather.

The mistake we typically keep repeating

Afterwards I can see that my problem was

That I was always aware of where the man was focused

Was it on me? Was it others? Was he happy with me? Was he happy with me?

So by feeling myself, I also found out how to react before the problems became too big.

Just know that you have a focus on you and how the relationship feels in you.

Welcome home

Life

PS By telling my story, I can only say that it is a problem I often see many other women repeating, so if you can recognize it, you will benefit a lot from turning the focus back on yourself.