"When love feels like a distant dream... What am I doing wrong?"

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"When love feels like a distant dream... What am I doing wrong?"

Have you ever asked yourself the question, what are you doing wrong? Ever wondered if there's something wrong with you since love hasn't found its way to you yet? You are not alone. Many share those thoughts.

Break free from the thought that there is something wrong with you

It is only natural to experience frustration when love is absent. Thoughts like “Is it me? Is something wrong with me?” starts to bother you.

Read how you can break this destructive pattern about…

- that shame becomes the mechanism that takes over if you haven't met love - yet

-to avoid connecting love with your own self-esteem.

Shame Is Your Secret 'Degrader'

When you were young you enjoyed feeling the rush of love's wings that made you fly far away... from home.

When you became available on the dating market -again many years later: Shock! Neither dreams nor man came to 'carry you away.

Shock replaced thoughts that it's you, there's something wrong since the love is gone❤️‍🩹🫣

It rips up the past, about all the times when you doubted whether you were loved.

And now the shame makes you become smaller and invisible as soon as the theme of 'love' is in the spotlight🤷‍♀️

Time to change course?

You know that love is not a reward for being 'good enough'. What does it help when Shame & Doubt are the invisible ties that bind you to your home and repel potential partners. By changing attitudes towards themnne destructive mindset, and consciously seek pride, a new path will appear to you. 

Turn your back on shame to get out of the past.

Therefore, love has nothing to do with your self-esteem

Love does not come because you lack something or because you are defective. Love is not a reward for being 'good enough'. It is a natural part of life that some people may encounter later than others.

If you've spent decades waiting for love and are starting to doubt your own worth, it's time to change course IMMEDIATELY. Because this doubt and uncertainty is actually what makes it harder to find love. When you think something is wrong with you, you unconsciously send signals of insecurity that can turn potential partners off.

Discover your personal strength

By taking responsibility for the fact that you want a boyfriend, you can raise your dignity above the cauldron of temptation...🫕which brews and emits scents of seduction that love comes naturally - even if it hasn't happened for several years.

If you would like to be proud of yourself and have self-esteem in love,
then I will offer you
a free 15-minute love conversation.

And talk together about whether you qualify to participate in the course: "Find love - Let go of the past and attract your dream partner in 6 weeks"

Answer "Yes please" if you don't want to hide from love and would rather learn to attract it. ❤️

If you are tired of being single, then before Christmas & New Year you can focus on attracting the right one.

You can order the conversation here

Secrets of love for women over 40

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The Secrets of Love for Women over 40... there are many of them, but it is surprising that it is the mature men who reveal one of the most important ones that only the woman herself can change.

That is why they are looking for a younger woman.

The men admit that the reasons why they choose younger women is that they are not so burdened by Love Wounds: They are happier and more satisfied in the relationship.

It hits women hard, but those who recognize it are also those who struggle with the desire for a relationship. Unfortunately, they don't do what it takes to attract the right partner.

Although very understandable, the price is high. It may take a 'rescuer' to get the woman to let go of something from the past. As a couples therapist, let me say: That I have only experienced that it comes with a price, and that it is only the woman herself who can heal the wounds.

The mature man who chooses much younger women

When I read that billionaire Petter Stordalens had a new girlfriend, I immediately thought:

She is guaranteed to be much younger than him. Damm… she was, 27 years old!

The most important secret to creating a happy love life is to live the life where you feel the happiness of love and where you can rediscover the joy in you when you encounter the man's different thoughts and ways. You do this because you are in an active relationship where they react rather than freeze and analyze.

An important question to ask yourself: How can you, as a mature woman, avoid bringing the bitterness and disappointment of the past into a new relationship?

Avoid the Baggage of the Past

As a mature woman, you have some life experience, and probably also previous relationships that didn't work out. The easiest and most natural thing is to let the previous disappointments or painful experiences shape your view of a new relationship. If not, it should be covered by the category: He must not... but that you react instead. Whenever.

What is the most important thing here?

It's every single time you hear a remark that has an impact like a lightning missile that pops into your head!

React to the situation! ALWAYS

Being paralyzed prevents you from living in the present

When you meet a new man, allow yourself to see how he affects you. Stay more in yourself, rather than pass into the eyes of the judge. Ask active questions. Show your joy, (forget you are afraid of choosing wrongly) when he does or says something that makes your chest warm.

The worst thing you can do?

It is transferring negative experiences to your inner account. Because here the 'bills' pile up. Relate to your feelings here and now. When something makes you happy or annoys you, notice how you experience it and express it from you - not from the critic.

Communication is key.

And the solution is to be present in the moment. It helps you experience true happiness and love without being weighed down by the burdens of the past. Every time you think critical thoughts, you let them pass

By communicating what you experience, sense and feel - sometimes a look is enough - you are in the process of creating exactly the relationship you want

Dear woman, you have a lot to offer and your past experiences have shaped you into the strong woman you are today.

Be you: "Like the Younger - inside

As true as has been said countless times: Love knows no age. Open your heart and be open to new adventures. As mature women, you have a unique blend of wisdom, strength and beauty.

You release oceans of energy when you are vividly present and react when something makes you happy or buzzes in your ears - let go of the bitterness of the past because NOW you know what is not okay.

Embrace love and it will embrace you – forget the limitations of the past. After all, they are the ones you learned from

 

Why can't I date?

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Overcome the obstacles - and spend your next holiday with a partner

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Would you like to avoid yet a holiday without a girlfriend?

Wondering what it takes to make it work?

First of all… we need to know what is holding us back from attracting love. Next... when you (re)know your obstacles, you also get the opportunity to change them into important realizations you can do something about.

You get a handful of what are the most common reasons why love is difficult. From here you can select the 3 most relevant for you.

Read more about what it takes so that you can instead look forward to taking a holiday and going on your dream holiday with your partner.

Avoid the holidays yet, where all the barriers stand and blink so that it is impossible to believe that true love and intimacy are within reach. Here are the most common obstacles that women can face…

Fear of rejection

Fear of rejection is one of the most common, and at the same time it is so strong that it can prevent us from having a girlfriend for the holidays. The fear of opening up to others, being vulnerable and being rejected can be overwhelming. But by working on your self-esteem and confidence, you can begin to overcome your fears and open yourself up to new possibilities for love.

Retention of old patterns

We are rarely aware of retaining old patterns. Sometimes we can hold on to old patterns and beliefs about love and relationships that no longer serve us as a good friend. It may be past bad experiences that prevent us from opening ourselves up to new connections. By being aware of these patterns and working to change them, you can break free of their limitations and open yourself up to new possibilities.

Self care

Another obstacle may be an inability to prioritize self-care. When we don't take time to nurture ourselves and our needs, we can feel out of balance and less able to attract love into our lives. By taking time to nurture yourself, strengthen your self-esteem and create a sense of well-being, you can open us up to the possibilities of love.

Fear of Commitment:

Fear of commitment: Some women may experience fear of commitment as an obstacle in their search for a partner. The thought of committing to another person can be terrifying and can cause us to withdraw from the possibility of love. By working with your fear - rather than letting it overwhelm you - open to exploring new relationships, we can create space for love to flourish.

When the holidays are approaching

As the holidays approach, it's natural to feel the obstacles in our search for love. But by working with your fears, changing old patterns, prioritizing self-care and being open to new possibilities, we can overcome these obstacles and create the vacation we long for – filled with love, connection and joy. Let's embrace the holidays as an opportunity for growth and change, and let's create a life where love and connection are a natural part of our everyday life.

Love Life

 

3 good tips on how to find new friends - Summer time and dating

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3 good tips on how to find new friends - Summer time and dating.

Meeting new people and creating meaningful connections is an important way out of single life to the possibilities of love.

Whether you're looking for a potential partner or new friendships, you can strengthen your ability to meet new people and make it an enriching experience when you practice. Most important!: The most important ingredients in a long-lasting relationship are our social skills.

I had to learn that myself

I myself needed to develop my social skills, having grown up in a secondary school that was like a railway station. Every day the students queued up to be with me and it made me shut down the social scene as a young person: I was so overloaded! The problem was the opposite, because I got to live in an ivory tower, and here I didn't meet potential lovers. I had to do something! And it made me face the world in a new way.

Here are some of the things I did:

#1 Be open and welcoming

Be open and welcoming: One of the most important things when meeting new people is to be open and welcoming. Give people a chance and be curious to get to know them. Show interest in their stories and lives, and be a listener in the conversation. Being positive and smiling also sends a signal that you are open to new connections.

#2 Participate in social events

An effective way to meet new people is by attending social events. Sign up for courses, workshops, networking events or hobby groups that interest you. These places are filled with people who share common interests, allowing you to build connections on a deeper level.

#3 Expand your network online

Expand your network online. I give you that advice here because it can be a really good kickstarter. You can start small and slowly gain courage. For many, it is a big mouthful just to start small talk. So use social media actively during your holiday. Be active on social media such as Facebook, Instagram or LinkedIn, where you can participate in groups and discussions in your areas of interest.

Remember! If you miss invitations?

Whenever you miss invitations, think about how you can be proactive yourself by inviting to social activities. This is when the new summer must be used. Arrange a picnic in the park, a visit to an art exhibition or a cozy dinner at home. By being the one who takes responsibility for organizing social activities, you show commitment and create an opportunity to strengthen connections.

Would you like to join a community with other women who are also looking for love...

then I will invite you to join my FB group, where you can hear about

 

30 tips for self-love

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Welcome to 30 Self-Love Tips

Self-loving actions and practices are essential to our well-being and well-being. And most importantly, they help you attract a better man.

Here are some reasons why it is so important to implement daily acts of self-love:

Increased self-acceptance:

When you practice self-love daily, you show yourself that you are valuable and deserving of love and acceptance. This creates a deeper connection with yourself and an improved sense of self-worth.

Balance and inner peace:

Acts of self-love help us create balance in our lives and bring inner peace. By taking the time to nurture our physical, mental and emotional needs, we create a healthy foundation for our well-being.

Acts of self-love help us create balance in your life and find inner peace. By prioritizing time to care for your physical, mental and emotional needs, you create a healthy foundation for your well-being.

Find love through Personal growth:

Through self-love practices, you challenge yourself to grow and develop.

And most importantly, you shift the focus from the voice of abandonment: “Why do I never manage to find love...” to be concerned with your own personal growth.

Self-love is an important factor in attracting the right man into your life.

When you love and value yourself, you send a signal to the outside world that you deserve love and respect. This signal is attractive to others, including potential partners. When you are self-loving, you radiate an inner glow and self-satisfaction that is attractive.

 

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