Do you know it?

You have long gone with the frustration!

Suddenly something dawns on you

maybe someone has suggested something to you…

and the moment you hear the solution, it's like the light bulb turns on in Aha experience.

What happens then?

The interesting thing, how you then take the solution to yourself...

Do you then continue to do the same?

Or you go overge to the previous phase (see the 3-edge below)

So you get what you are missing or have overlooked?

Over half…

Recently, I asked my participants in one of my coaching groups:

"What would you like to get better at in a relationship"

Over half responded

• Good contact with myself - once we are together.

The most important thing in a relationship

The crux of the matter is that if we believe a partner must cover our needs

then we have the recipe for... becoming dissatisfied or unhappy in the relationship.

My boyfriend admitted yesterday that he felt rejected,

when I don't want to listen to an endless stream of research results.

He now knows he has to find other places to fill that need.

Perhaps you yearn for a stronger social network,

and have decided that it is solved by finding him.

Instead, you will achieve a sense of greater freedom by developing it yourself

rather than putting one of your most important keys in his pocket.

Isn't that the fault of the past?

Njahh… yup…

but this insight does not 'save' us.

Although that is guilt of childhood or the past,

that we have acquired unsafe relationship patterns and attachment traumas.

What is needed is for you to free up your resources so that you attract long-lasting love

Not on attracting… the shortcomings, the sadness, the frustration…

which gives you the most focus not to succeed.

 

You don't have to look back

Did you know that you can find the resources

right now by looking at your current life?

By looking at: "Where the chain smokes off the bike" how is your life now?

We know very well that it is not the chain itself that is the cause of a bad bike

A chain that is constantly falling off is the result of several things:

too long chain, worn sprocket, too large a distance to the wheel, etc

Would you like to create a healthy and loving relationship?

see picture with the pyramid showing

that the foundation of a healthy relationship is a loving self-image

(interesting that it's not the past ;-)…)

Cultivating the shortcomings creates frustration

Therefore, if you are frustrated with your dating situation

so take a step back and cultivate your ability to show yourself,

care and that you take care of yourself.

It is more edifying than continuing with something that breaks you down.

Start by asking yourself:

"Why is a girlfriend so important to me?"

Let's just say this time it's not social

but the joy and physical contact a relationship gives.

Here you can consider dance such as salsa, acro yoga, courses...

all while you continue after a few weeks

with your love journey

Have fun from Life

 

You can also investigate whether you would like help in my coaching group

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