The Secrets of Love for Women over 40... there are many of them, but it is surprising that it is the mature men who reveal one of the most important ones that only the woman herself can change.

That is why they are looking for a younger woman.

The men admit that the reasons why they choose younger women is that they are not so burdened by Love Wounds: They are happier and more satisfied in the relationship.

It hits women hard, but those who recognize it are also those who struggle with the desire for a relationship. Unfortunately, they don't do what it takes to attract the right partner.

Although very understandable, the price is high. It may take a 'rescuer' to get the woman to let go of something from the past. As a couples therapist, let me say: That I have only experienced that it comes with a price, and that it is only the woman herself who can heal the wounds.

The mature man who chooses much younger women

When I read that billionaire Petter Stordalens had a new girlfriend, I immediately thought:

She is guaranteed to be much younger than him. Damm… she was, 27 years old!

The most important secret to creating a happy love life is to live the life where you feel the happiness of love and where you can rediscover the joy in you when you encounter the man's different thoughts and ways. You do this because you are in an active relationship where they react rather than freeze and analyze.

An important question to ask yourself: How can you, as a mature woman, avoid bringing the bitterness and disappointment of the past into a new relationship?

Avoid the Baggage of the Past

As a mature woman, you have some life experience, and probably also previous relationships that didn't work out. The easiest and most natural thing is to let the previous disappointments or painful experiences shape your view of a new relationship. If not, it should be covered by the category: He must not... but that you react instead. Whenever.

What is the most important thing here?

It's every single time you hear a remark that has an impact like a lightning missile that pops into your head!

React to the situation! ALWAYS

Being paralyzed prevents you from living in the present

When you meet a new man, allow yourself to see how he affects you. Stay more in yourself, rather than pass into the eyes of the judge. Ask active questions. Show your joy, (forget you are afraid of choosing wrongly) when he does or says something that makes your chest warm.

The worst thing you can do?

It is transferring negative experiences to your inner account. Because here the 'bills' pile up. Relate to your feelings here and now. When something makes you happy or annoys you, notice how you experience it and express it from you - not from the critic.

Communication is key.

And the solution is to be present in the moment. It helps you experience true happiness and love without being weighed down by the burdens of the past. Every time you think critical thoughts, you let them pass

By communicating what you experience, sense and feel - sometimes a look is enough - you are in the process of creating exactly the relationship you want

Dear woman, you have a lot to offer and your past experiences have shaped you into the strong woman you are today.

Be you: "Like the Younger - inside

As true as has been said countless times: Love knows no age. Open your heart and be open to new adventures. As mature women, you have a unique blend of wisdom, strength and beauty.

You release oceans of energy when you are vividly present and react when something makes you happy or buzzes in your ears - let go of the bitterness of the past because NOW you know what is not okay.

Embrace love and it will embrace you – forget the limitations of the past. After all, they are the ones you learned from