... so now you know that there is at least one single man out there... 😊 (- confided by single man to journalist)

 Do you also experience that you quickly come to look more at the end result than at all the indispensable knowledge you gain along the way,

when you are actively looking to find love?

 Have you noticed that when it doesn't really work out, your frustration and abandonment gradually increase.

See here how you can maintain focus on your search for love, because the journey is fun and exciting.

After you read the blog, you know how to rekindle and strengthen the spark so that you have enough energy to succeed

- without the trauma of the past stopping you.

I learned that last night

Last night I learned something important that if there is something I long for - it can be anything from love to freedom and more joy -

then it is crucial to AVOID asking yourself: "Where does it fail...?" "How can it be that I don't…?

Because that will only lead to more abandonment and frustration.

Do this instead:

Instead, you must activate new thoughts.

Such as: “What does it take to find love?”

Your persistent question has the function that you will start looking for new answers.

Rather than repeating the past.

Start with the most important

Imagine you are creating a “ParPlan 2023.” Here you add the following three essential steps for 2023

1)      Learn from 2022 – this may involve several years of experience

2)      Set the framework for 2023

3)      Get it to sk

Learn from past experiences.

1. 1. If you have had a tendency to choose the wrong men in the past, write in your ParPlan2023: The most important thing is that I choose the right ones.

For example, if you have created a dating profile that you are not really getting the desired response to, then it is crucial that you improve it!

Otherwise, you will easily give up on finding love here and now - and instead wait years for it to (hopefully) happen by itself.

See the example below:

1st column: 3 things you will do to find love2023

2nd column: What you will do to make it succeed

2. Deepening

Column 1. Set the framework with 3 concrete things that only you can change. In addition to dating profile, it can be:

Get more energy - by... running, self-indulgence, better at setting boundaries... Avoid falling in and believing that it will work out by waiting for him to find you. It's too non-specific.

3. Column 2 What will it take for you to make it happen? Here you are therefore more specific with how to achieve it. Use possibly the above scheme, and make it quite specific.

For example, What you want to do to get a date on Valentine's Day.

Can you feel the spark?

Don't be like Laila, who had a sure fire strategy for extinguishing hope. She wrote to me that she had given up on finding love.

At the same time, she emailed several times to get help with the love plan. Imagine that she used the same energy to find love.

The crucial thing is to maintain focus on:

It's your turn to find love and you're ready for the next step

After reading the above…

After reading the above: Notice how it affects you: Butterflies in the stomach, lightness in the chest, joy?

Use this energy as fuel to find love.

Also note the energy you get by making the short ParPlan 2023.

Finally, share with me, I love to hear about your victories and your development of your self-awareness.

Life