You know what it looks like when it's the little girl who's on the date?

When it's the little girl who goes on a date - and the grown woman stays at home, you want to focus more on him than yourself.  

Therefore, you can make it both easier and more secure to find love when you are aware that the adult woman can easily figure out how to look after you-

Do you know that too?

You already fear the moments when you are insecure and restless. Because you have doubts about him. You have thoughts like, does he want to be with you, can you trust him, and does he really love you?

You have told yourself…

– that if you choose the right man, this will not happen,

- that you can just ditch him again

– or that this time you won't get it the same way

That's why you get here on the blog…

– the answer to how you can prevent your inner little girl from destroying love

– the eyes open to the fact that a chameleon state creates fear

-knowledge that it is paramount that you are the adult woman – and not the little girl who controls you.

After reading the blog…

Do you know how you can safely leave the little girl at home so that it is the grown woman who is on the date.

It helps you shift from fear to being able to confidently take care of yourself.

When the opinion of others is far too important

There is a reason why the opinion of others is so important.

The little girl knows where she gets security and nourishment from. She is dependent on it for life.

Typically, we have to do something extraordinary to separate ourselves from other people's opinions as adults.

Otherwise, it will continue to be the little girl who thinks her survival depends on others.

If you haven't done it yet, here's your chance.

It can be thoughts like

• Wondering if he likes me?
• What will my friends and family think of him?

Can you recognize the above thoughts?

It is very understandable and recognizable for most people to worry about what others think.

Conversely, if you choose a partner who suits everyone but you, it is still the little girl who is on the date.

Trust that you are shaped by your past, but that you are a free woman.

You can feel for yourself what is good for you and what is not.

The above thoughts are your best reflection on whether it is the little girl or the grown woman who is on a date.

 

What does it take for the grown woman to date?

 

Are you a chameleon without knowing it?

In the early stages of a relationship, it's common (and dangerous) to mold ourselves around our partner's needs and preferences.

That is why it is so important that you build and hold on to your sense of self, as the grown woman you are.

Don't give up your individual interests for a partner or your favorite people.

On the contrary, you will get invaluable information here whether to hold on to him or let him go.

This is the ultimate test of whether he is the one!

Notice if your partner encourages you to do what you enjoy and see your people. Here, your grown woman will look after you.

The little girl believes that he probably knows better. The adult in you knows that he has no idea.

What is AWESOME about YOU?

Are you in doubt or have you never thought about what is great about you?

Do you bring the best of yourself to the relationship, or are you too focused on your partner's flaws?

It is often a sign that you do not trust yourself to meet your needs.

Note here that the little girl is dependent on the parents giving her the necessary so that you can master life.

The grown woman knows she is good enough.

With less previous bad incidents, that part messes up.

Maybe you can recognize

• It is your poor self-confidence that you are stuck with

It can make you see the worst in your partner. Because we see the worst in ourselves.

We project our poor self-esteem onto them

 

Do this instead!

You can safely leave the little girl at home when…

The little girl accepts that you, as an adult, control her. Not vice versa.

It is sometimes necessary conscious to tell yourself.

Only walk out the door like a grown woman!

This makes it easier to focus on yourself, your needs and self-confidence.

Do you know your good qualities?

Find and identify your many fine qualities. Write them down if it helps.

Ask your friends if you need to. Ask them to name the 3 best qualities about you. Check the list daily.

Take a photo of them lying on your phone, just to look at before you go on the date.

 

Dear woman, I wish you the best date in your company, together with him

Life