My single mindset<\/h2>\n
In my many years(-ties ;-)) as a single,<\/p>\n
I only looked at the men:<\/p>\n
\u2013 were good enough\u2026?<\/p>\n
\u2013 cute enough in a relationship\u2026?<\/p>\n
and could I trust them.<\/p>\n
All this<\/p>\n
without my influence!<\/strong><\/p>\n Think! <\/strong>\u00a0Not at any time<\/p>\n I considered my role:<\/p>\n If I went too far<\/p>\n \u2013 or exceeded what felt good.<\/p>\n The problem with living on autopilot,<\/p>\n is that it is still like the child who has learned to depend on the environment.<\/p>\n As an adult woman also the same approach<\/p>\n \u2013 to be dependent on whether the man does it 'perfectly'.<\/p>\n and it deprives us of the influence on the development of the relationship.<\/p>\n Wow I have made many diagnoses<\/strong><\/p>\n if he does not behave as expected.<\/p>\n Mentally abusive? Narcissist? Psychopath (-the last one is especially cultivated)<\/p>\n <\/p>\n When I slowly woke up,<\/p>\n it was like being blinded by the sun<\/p>\n Argh\u2026 again! again! again!<\/p>\n Have I gone too far?<\/p>\n Recognizable?<\/p>\n But what clarity the sun's rays<\/p>\n conversely also gave<\/p>\n You are guaranteed to know them as<\/p>\n the precious lessons.<\/strong><\/p>\n That's why I know firsthand that it's about more<\/p>\n to be present in the relationship<\/strong><\/p>\n By paying attention to:\u00a0 what is going on<\/strong><\/p>\n Rather than whether he is a certain way.<\/p>\n Do you use him as\u2026<\/p>\n -a 'rescuer',<\/p>\n -is he allowed to speak badly to you? '<\/p>\n -‘Do you think your<\/em>\u2013 without reacting to it?<\/p>\n Is this often what makes us not react!<\/strong><\/p>\n Start with the two most important focuses:<\/p>\nI was living on autopilot<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nThe automaton was humanly made<\/h2>\n
Are you influencing the relationship yourself?<\/h2>\n
That's how little you need to start<\/h2>\n
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